I am mom's sole caretaker and am feeling the need to reach out and accept whatever services may be available to her to give me a break and not feel the guilt. I have taken her to a day program occasionally. My health is being affected and added stress is becoming overwhelming. I need to let go of the guilt feelings. Where do I go or call to seek services that are available to her and I both?
https://www.agingcare.com/local/Area-Agency-on-Aging
So, having both my 91 YO mother in law and my mother, in different facilities - I want to stress that not all facilities are bad. We only hear about those that are. But, if you were to die suddenly where would your mom end up? I think you need to make that happen, now.
Good luck - and make your own plans for old age, now. Because no one else wants to.