My mother lives on her own with Carers visiting. She has now started saying that she can’t understand the microwave and oven, then washing machine. All of a sudden she said she doesn’t know how to use them. Her electric fire was old so we replaced with the identical one, now she is saying she doesn’t know how to work it no matter how many times I tell her it’s identical she says she still doesn’t know how to work it and it’s stressing me out. She had her microwave on that high that she burnt the chips and broke her teeth as they were that hard. She won’t get tested for Alzheimer’s or Dementia, it’s driving me mad.
If the plan is for her to remain in her home then one of these carers has to move in there and live with her, or it has to be arranged for someone to be in the home 24 hours a day. If there's no family willing to let her live with them and take care of her, she will have to go to a care facility.
There's no choice here. she cannot be left living on her own if she's burning up food. That's dangerous. Household appliances can be very dangerous indeed to some elderly person with dementia.
It doesn't matter how many times you or anyone else tells her how the fireplace works. She has dementia.
Please find a care facility to put her in even if placement has to be done against her will. It's for her own safety.
She needs placement.