My brother is unmarried and unemployed. He still lives at home, never left. Never held a job for more than 2 - 3 years at home. Basically, he lives off my parents' Social Security and the rents they collect from their multiple family homes.
My father is legally blind and needs a walker or cane to get around. My brother refuses to get an arrow elevator for my father to get to his second floor apartment. Saying it is not practical or feasible for my father to get this assistance.
In November, my mother 84 year old mother, fell and broke her ribs. My brother still did not thinks. Then by November she suffered pneuomia. She was hospitalzed for a month and a half. During the hospitalization she was diagnosis with multple myeloma.
He refuses to get a woman to care for my father. He refuses to give my mother the care she needs. When he switched health insurance he got basic medicare and blue cross and blue shield which only provides 20 days in a nursing and rehab center. He says once the days are used up he will take her home and care for her himself,
He refuses to allow us to look at the finances, He also has isolated them from us by screaming and yelling abusive language. He threatening to sell the house that my parents set aside for me. He also threatening to call my place of employment saying I harassing him. All, I want to know is why he is isolating them and refusing us to look into their fiances so we can get them the proper care.
What are my options to get my parents away from this sibling's control? Please hep!
But if they are competent, you may have to accept their choices.
I would talk to them before involving the authorities, lessening their insurance is unwise, but not abusive. Living off them makes him a looser, but if they want to enable him, since they are doing so out of their own assets, it is really their choice.
If their is evidence of abuse APS will step in, it is worth an investigation, but know this will affect the family dynamics before you start down that road.
I hope your mother gets the care she needs, even if she decides against treatment.
Best of luck
L