My mother fell and broke her hip she had surgery the next day. The first part of the following week she was placed in a skilled nursing facility. We were notified she had reached a level that she did not need a skilled nursing facility. We were told she had to have 24 hour a day care or go to assisted living. I had 2 days to figure out what I was going to do. So me and my sister got her in a very nice facility. I was trying to get her on medicaid when my oldest sister went and got her for the weekend. She did not let me my other sister or brothers know she was going to do this or where they would be staying. I have all of my mothers medication and her insurance cards. I was appointed by her as her health care power of attorney. I am sick of my other family members. She can not afford in home care and I have to work. My other sister and brother live out of town. And both have stated they can not help with her physical care. I do not have the papers for power of attorney registered at the court house I live in North Carolina. My mother is not incapacitated how do I get out of power of attorney papers.
If your mother wants you to be POA for finances, have an attorney draw up a durable POA for health and finances have your mother sign with a notary. There are self help legal services (Legal Zoom is one) but it is probably best to have an attorney in the state she resides create the document.
Other family members are a pain, no doubt about that. They have no idea of the time and sanity it takes to deal with an aging parent. My mother has been living with us for 7 years now. We cannot go on vacations or even a day trip without considering what to do with Grandma. We all love our parents but there is a point at which we say "why me? Why do I have to sacrifice my life for this?" My brothers all live in other cities and don't even have their own mother come for a few days. One brother visits to take us to lunch and then leaves...while at lunch he complains about how much the food costs...I rather he not even come to see us. I do believe my marriage and my children and my self growth have all been affected negatively because of my mother being here. She has dementia and is gradually loosing her abilities; she always was a space cadet; she never planned for her retirement or any long term care..she never even learned to drive. She just counted on everyone to do things for her all of her life and now I am stuck with the ending. When she has lost her abilities, I will have to put her in a nursing home with the help of Medicare.
I hope you get some good advise. Go to an attorney you don't know we went thru my mom attorney and I don't think that was a good choice looking back now.
Good Luck
Thank-You I will ck into that. But I guess being the youngest does not help things either.
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