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I had a casual relationship just for some self love and support and he has a young son so it was great we both had responsibilities or so it seemed. But he cheated with a co-worker who has had his baby. She's younger, prettier and free to travel, go around with him when he wants. I wonder he probably thought I was just boring as I work, come home then care for my parents on weekends. Made me so sad 😢 in addition to the horrific hurt anyway I realise deep down it was probably because he was bored with my responsibilities. So I've just withdrawn back in to myself. Also Mum and Dad wouldn't approve even of a companion as they'd think I'd abandon them so it was all hidden anyway another pressure especially post divorce for me. Just feel alone and sad even though I'm doing what I want and should do. So hard as Mum and I had a difficult relationship with emotional abuse as a child now I'm the carer. Anyone else relate?
Belle, I have some single male friends, most would see this as to much baggage to start a relationship.
Try to think of it as someone that came into your life when you needed someone, and this as an opportunity to get yourself mentally and physically healthier. Build your self esteem, get some therapy, figure out in your head how much you are willing to do for your parents and how much is too much and at what point are you doing to much, so you can set your boundaries and stick to them, and have a life, seperate from you aging parents, which I s what we all deserve.
Sounds like you have pretty low self esteem, and probably shouldn't be in any kind of relationships until you get some therapy for that. Then on top of that you're putting your parents and their care first, which will never bode well if you're wanting a true loving relationship as in one, each person MUST put each other first, not their parents. Your parents ARE NOT your responsibility and as long as you believe that they are, you will never be able to move forward in any kind of healthy relationship. So perhaps it best to just take this time to figure out you and what you REALLY want out of this one life that you've been given. Surely it's not to have to care for your parents for the rest of their life right? Plus NO child that was abused in any way from a parent, should ever take on the care of that parent as that is only like pouring salt into an open wound as I'm sure you already know. I hope that you'll seek out a good therapist that can help you sort out all you've been through and are continuing to put yourself through.
And I will share one of my all time favorite sayings. It goes like this...."Never be a prisoner of your past. It was just a lesson, not a life sentence." So learn the lessons that life has taught you so far so you can move on and quit being the poor victim, and instead strive to be the strong survivor that you truly are.
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
VI. No Waiver of Your Rights.
APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
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I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information").
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Try to think of it as someone that came into your life when you needed someone, and this as an opportunity to get yourself mentally and physically healthier. Build your self esteem, get some therapy, figure out in your head how much you are willing to do for your parents and how much is too much and at what point are you doing to much, so you can set your boundaries and stick to them, and have a life, seperate from you aging parents, which I s what we all deserve.
Then on top of that you're putting your parents and their care first, which will never bode well if you're wanting a true loving relationship as in one, each person MUST put each other first, not their parents.
Your parents ARE NOT your responsibility and as long as you believe that they are, you will never be able to move forward in any kind of healthy relationship. So perhaps it best to just take this time to figure out you and what you REALLY want out of this one life that you've been given. Surely it's not to have to care for your parents for the rest of their life right?
Plus NO child that was abused in any way from a parent, should ever take on the care of that parent as that is only like pouring salt into an open wound as I'm sure you already know.
I hope that you'll seek out a good therapist that can help you sort out all you've been through and are continuing to put yourself through.
And I will share one of my all time favorite sayings. It goes like this...."Never be a prisoner of your past. It was just a lesson, not a life sentence."
So learn the lessons that life has taught you so far so you can move on and quit being the poor victim, and instead strive to be the strong survivor that you truly are.