I'm just a student and my mom is retired for 2 years already. She started working at her company at the age of 26 y.o. until 52 y.o. and she's now 54. Since she left her job she wastes 70% of her time on Facebook, playing farm saga, and sometimes watching melodrama. I'm really worried 'coz she really has a bad body clock that'll cause her health issues. She always sleeps late, like 5 o' clock in the morning, and then she wakes up at like 3 o' clock in the afternoon. She's not like that before. Our family relationship is getting cold because we don't feel everyone in the house (eating together and helping each other is not happening anymore) we're now doing our own and get distracted by our own businesses. I don't feel it as a home since this pandemic happened.
Kindly help me. I want to save my mom and my family so badly :((
Tell us a bit more about your mom? You mentioned the pandemic. Do you think that something else is going on or did this behavior started due to being isolated?
I think I would start by telling her that you miss her. That way she won’t feel judged and possibly become defensive. Did she spend lots of time on Facebook before? Or other social media? Does she have insomnia or did her habits change? Is she avoiding something? Has there been bad arguments in the home? Did she do all of the cooking and cleaning alone? Did she feel taken for granted? Did she burn out on chores? What’s going on in her life? Is she depressed? Anxiety?
You are looking at this from a health and relationships point of view. Checking the money may be the easiest way to change things that need to be changed.