He has been abused while in the shower twice. His hand has a nasty cut on it and no one knows how it got there. They prescribed medication that he doesn't need like seizure medicine when he doesn't have seizures. They put false statements on his paperwork without any justification. They refuse to give a referral for a neurologist which he desperately needs. He's been there for a year and a half with no program or end in sight.
In general, if family members wish to withdraw a loved one to home care, and it can be proven that they are well capable of providing for their elder and doing said care, they not only CAN withdraw this elder from care if they are POA or Guardian, but would be helped in setting over oversite and some in home help.
We have here a story in which you are being stopped by a facility legally.
This means that you are NOT the POA or the Guardian or the Conservator.
Can you therefore answer some few questions for us so that WE can answer YOU?
1. You say your loved one is now in care for 1 1/2 years.
Who put your loved one in care?
2. Who is the guardian/POA or conservator in charge of your loved one's care?
3. Is your loved one under guardianship of your state?
4. Is your loved one legally competent?
5. What abuse occurred in the shower? Who witnessed and reported it?
Crucial here is "WHO IS IN CHARGE?" Because if you are not, then you have little power to do anything.
If he is impaired, then only his legal PoA or legal guardian can approve this.
So, who is legally managing his affairs?
If he is cogntively impaired it is entirely possible that some or all of the information he is giving you is inaccurate.
More information from you would be helpful.
Why doesn't the OP call 911 on his behalf?