We have been caring for her for going on six years. Have watched slow decline, yearly, them it was every 3 or 4 months. Now it seems it worsens every week.
We do everything for her, take her everywhere with us and can not leave her alone.
My other half is extremely worn out! We do not live together yet due to my ex husband not allowing me to move our children out of their school district.
I feel bad all the way around. I work a full time job during the week and spend weekends at his house with mom, hoping he is getting a break. We cook for her and clean up after her. Not only is she into everything like a toddler, she fights us on everything, is incontinent urine and stool... I feel guilty saying it but I don’t know if I can continue spending what little free time I have cooking and doing laundry, bathing someone and scrubbing carpeting and floors because we refuse a diaper...
other half only keeps saying he has to do what he has to do or mom will have no life...hello?! She hasn’t had one for some time, and now I am worried about him, and myself!
Any help or suggestions appreciated!
Yes, a year ago we checked into and even visited several places, but we are still caring for her...this is just really tough...
If me, I would start backing off. If he cares enough, he will place Mom. If not, have u really lost anything?
Also, does he have job opportunities if she is placed?
we live separately because my ex husband will not allow my children to move out of our school district. My children are also not with me when I am caring for mom, they spend most weekends at their dads, thankfully...
our relationship has been very fulfilling and we have been together for many years, I feel like I should be helping, but, I’m beginning to think it is time for her to be placed as she needs more care than we are capable of providing.
as for him missing out on job opportunities, he has many rental properties, keeping up with them and with tenants is his job...