My siblings have taken no part in caring for my mom for 15 years, they live minutes away and do not even visit. Asking one of them to help out for even an hour turns into a huge argument with all of them over my inability to handle caring for my mom. They start arranging for hospice services and making decisions without any consideration for myself and my household. If I do not comply they get lawyers to send threatening letters, or make allegations of abuse and neglect, with Adult Protective Services. I have never abused my mother, and certainly do not neglect her. They believe they know what is in her best interest, but spend no time with her.