Are you sure you want to exit? Your progress will be lost.
Who are you caring for?
Which best describes their mobility?
How well are they maintaining their hygiene?
How are they managing their medications?
Does their living environment pose any safety concerns?
Fall risks, spoiled food, or other threats to wellbeing
Are they experiencing any memory loss?
Which best describes your loved one's social life?
Acknowledgment of Disclosures and Authorization
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington. Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services. APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid. We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour. APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment. You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints. Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
VI. No Waiver of Your Rights. APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.I agree that: A.I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information"). B.APFM may provide information to me electronically. My electronic signature on agreements and documents has the same effect as if I signed them in ink. C.APFM may send all communications to me electronically via e-mail or by access to an APFM web site. D.If I want a paper copy, I can print a copy of the Disclosures or download the Disclosures for my records. E.This E-Sign Acknowledgement and Authorization applies to these Disclosures and all future Disclosures related to APFM's services, unless I revoke my authorization. You may revoke this authorization in writing at any time (except where we have already disclosed information before receiving your revocation.) This authorization will expire after one year. F.You consent to APFM's reaching out to you using a phone system than can auto-dial numbers (we miss rotary phones, too!), but this consent is not required to use our service.
✔
I acknowledge and authorize
✔
I consent to the collection of my consumer health data.*
✔
I consent to the sharing of my consumer health data with qualified home care agencies.*
*If I am consenting on behalf of someone else, I have the proper authorization to do so. By clicking Get My Results, you agree to our Privacy Policy. You also consent to receive calls and texts, which may be autodialed, from us and our customer communities. Your consent is not a condition to using our service. Please visit our Terms of Use. for information about our privacy practices.
Mostly Independent
Your loved one may not require home care or assisted living services at this time. However, continue to monitor their condition for changes and consider occasional in-home care services for help as needed.
Remember, this assessment is not a substitute for professional advice.
Share a few details and we will match you to trusted home care in your area:
Suspect this may be a control issue even though I have male aide to help. Husband is fall risk, but we have safety equipment in place, & he has expressed feeling safe w/aide. May be in mid stage of vascular dementia.
Since it isn't uncommon for people with all types of dementia to be reluctant to getting bathed/showered, I would recommend you visiting the Alzheimer's Association Website (www.alz.org) that has a lot of information about bathing (or showering). It will tell you the reasons behind it and how to handle it. Once at their website, it's under the tab "Help and Support", then click on "Caregiving", then "Daily Care" and look for the topic "Bathing." Hope that helps you!
Right now, my 95-year old mother with Alzheimer's is in memory care along with hospice helping out and they actually do gentle bed bathing. I used to get disposable alcohol free/aloe bathing wipes which I would get at Walgreens.
My demented mother was petrified of falling in the shower, which led to her reluctance to take one, even with plenty of help. And a shower that looks more like a fortress than anything else. So I bought her a pair of water shoes on Amazon that makes her feel more secure while on the shower floor, and prevent her from the feeling of 'slipping' or 'sliding' around.
If you can get at the root of WHY he doesn't want to take a shower, that may help. Then again, it may not. Dementia presents itself as an enigma; sufferers get extremely OCD and obstinate about what they will and will not do, whether it makes sense to US or not.
If you can get DH to bathe once a week, you're all good. If not, you can watch some Teepa Snow videos on YouTube about bathing with dementia. She has a 'hand over hand' maneuver she teaches a care giver that creates a feeling of trust with a dementia sufferer and may be of help with your DH. It can be applied when walking, dressing/undressing, showering, feeding, etc. Teepa's great..........check her out if you haven't already.
Deal with it by not making him shower if he doesn't want to. With a male aide (or a female one, come to that) to help him with personal care, his not showering will do no harm to anyone.
I did have some success coaxing a gentleman into having a shower despite his initial reluctance. He had a bath seat to sit on, and I controlled the shower wand for him. The reason it was important is that the poor man suffered from psoriasis and without a shower it was very difficult to clean his limbs of shed skin properly.
But in spite of my caution and constant reassurance, and although he *did* agree - otherwise I would never have showered him - there is no pretending the poor soul enjoyed his shower. He may not have been able to tell me why the slightly warm water and the soft jet were frightening and uncomfortable for him, but so they were.
What does the aide think? Have you talked over approaches with him?
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
VI. No Waiver of Your Rights.
APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
I agree that:
A.
I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information").
B.
APFM may provide information to me electronically. My electronic signature on agreements and documents has the same effect as if I signed them in ink.
C.
APFM may send all communications to me electronically via e-mail or by access to an APFM web site.
D.
If I want a paper copy, I can print a copy of the Disclosures or download the Disclosures for my records.
E.
This E-Sign Acknowledgement and Authorization applies to these Disclosures and all future Disclosures related to APFM's services, unless I revoke my authorization. You may revoke this authorization in writing at any time (except where we have already disclosed information before receiving your revocation.) This authorization will expire after one year.
F.
You consent to APFM's reaching out to you using a phone system than can auto-dial numbers (we miss rotary phones, too!), but this consent is not required to use our service.
Since it isn't uncommon for people with all types of dementia to be reluctant to getting bathed/showered, I would recommend you visiting the Alzheimer's Association Website (www.alz.org) that has a lot of information about bathing (or showering). It will tell you the reasons behind it and how to handle it. Once at their website, it's under the tab "Help and Support", then click on "Caregiving", then "Daily Care" and look for the topic "Bathing." Hope that helps you!
Right now, my 95-year old mother with Alzheimer's is in memory care along with hospice helping out and they actually do gentle bed bathing. I used to get disposable alcohol free/aloe bathing wipes which I would get at Walgreens.
If you can get at the root of WHY he doesn't want to take a shower, that may help. Then again, it may not. Dementia presents itself as an enigma; sufferers get extremely OCD and obstinate about what they will and will not do, whether it makes sense to US or not.
If you can get DH to bathe once a week, you're all good. If not, you can watch some Teepa Snow videos on YouTube about bathing with dementia. She has a 'hand over hand' maneuver she teaches a care giver that creates a feeling of trust with a dementia sufferer and may be of help with your DH. It can be applied when walking, dressing/undressing, showering, feeding, etc. Teepa's great..........check her out if you haven't already.
Good luck!
I did have some success coaxing a gentleman into having a shower despite his initial reluctance. He had a bath seat to sit on, and I controlled the shower wand for him. The reason it was important is that the poor man suffered from psoriasis and without a shower it was very difficult to clean his limbs of shed skin properly.
But in spite of my caution and constant reassurance, and although he *did* agree - otherwise I would never have showered him - there is no pretending the poor soul enjoyed his shower. He may not have been able to tell me why the slightly warm water and the soft jet were frightening and uncomfortable for him, but so they were.
What does the aide think? Have you talked over approaches with him?