I've read many articles about dementia, but I never find them to be helpful. They never give examples of anything and every case is different. Can someone explain how it's diagnosed, particularly in the early stages? I mean, everyone forgets things no matter how old they are. Some people are very forgetful and remember events incorrectly, but they don't have dementia or any other disorder that would cause forgetfulness. Going by these articles, I would say everyone has dementia. I have seen people younger than 30 who have the symptoms mentioned in the dementia articles. In the case of my grandmother, she's been saying questionable things going back at least 15 years. I never knew whether she was confabulating, lying, just trying to make conversation, or simply confused. She is someone whose nature is to kind of play dumb (say she didn't know when she very well did know). She's always been lazy and never wanted to be bothered. The only things she enjoyed were driving and socializing. When she couldn't do either of those due to mobility issues after cancer treatment, that's when I really noticed changes in her. I remember about six years ago she was so "off" that I thought by December 2016 she would have full blown dementia, but she didn't. With her, I can't tell if she has dementia or if what I'm seeing is her laziness and not wanting to be bothered to think mentally. I do think that maybe she has mild dementia, but where do you draw the line between dementia and normal forgetfulness (keeping in mind that some people are naturally super forgetful)?
It is not so much just the frequency of forgetting as the nature of what is forgotten and their reaction to it.
Dementia has other components in addition to memory loss. (Different kinds of dementia have different characteristics.) These may include hallucinations, delusions, paranoia, problems with depth perception, sleep disturbances, difficulty in coming up with even obvious solutions, anxiety over decision making, loss of sense of smell, and many more.
If grandmother develops additional symptoms that could be dementia, it may be time to get her evaluated.
For now, you know what grandmother's behavior is like. Whether you have a label for it or not, it is what it is and it is what you have to deal with. There are no cures for dementia and very little in the way of treatment plans.
In what way do you think having a diagnosis would change things for you?
I think at the last count we're up to a few dozen, is it? types of disease which will result in dementia, definitively, as in: "loss of one's mind." Bearing in mind that even the word "mind" covers a multitude of concepts - memory, language, spatial awareness, sense of self and one's surroundings, decision-making, responses to stimuli, adherence to social norms... everything your brain does.
Some people say dementia when they mean Alzheimer's Disease, and vice versa. Some people casually use the word demented when they mean hyper-stressed or very angry. If the subject matters enough in a particular context, you just have to nail down a more accurate and detailed description of what is going on.
From my experience, cognitive decline and/or dementia doesn't always initially present itself with memory problems. What I observed was more in the line of POOR judgment, apathy and agitation. I couldn't figure out why my LO wouldn't do things that they would have in the past, like wash hands before handling food? Why would they insist on wearing diapers, when they were perfectly capable of going to the bathroom? Why would they be so cross and disagreeable, for no reason? I struggled with this and even questioned health care workers, who said the patient was lazy and spoiled. But, they were wrong. It was dementia in the early stages. Later, it became clear what was happening.
During this time, someone asked me about dementia and I said, NO way, her memory is fine. But, then the memory went too. Even though I had seen the odd behavior, I was still shocked when her GP diagnosed with dementia in an office visit with a Mini Eval.
So, I'd make a list of your observations and discuss with a professional who will be familiar with symptoms and able to order appropriate tests, if that is what you feel you need. When dementia is obvious, some people, don't get further tests to determine why and more details. I did have further tests with a neurologist with my LO and it confirmed the GP's diagnosis of Vascular Dementia, but, my LO was so young (62), I felt that further testing was appropriate.
I hope you can find the answers you are looking for.
Once Dementia is diagnosed, there is a PET scan to determine if Alzheimers.
HOWEVER, with my DH, I researched and started giving him a drop of Food Grade Iodine, 150 mcg (minimum daily requirement), in his first cup of supplement and his cognition has really turned around! After months of not knowing me as his wife, he now knows me and knows that we are in our own home. And he knows where the bathroom is again! Yes, you can and should ask your physician - but mine didn't think it necessary but when I determined it wouldn't hurt him, I started the Iodine Therapy and never looked back.
OMG! It's like a miracle!!
Indeed there are many articles everywhere about Alzheimer's and dementia. First thing to understand is that the term "dementia" is an umbrella term in that it covers a multitude of conditions. From Wikipedia:
"Dementia is a broad category of brain diseases that cause a long-term and often gradual decrease in the ability to think and remember that is great enough to affect a person's daily functioning. Other common symptoms include emotional problems, problems with language, and a decrease in motivation. A person's consciousness is usually not affected. A dementia diagnosis requires a change from a person's usual mental functioning and a greater decline than one would expect due to aging. These diseases also have a significant effect on a person's caregivers.
The most common type of dementia is Alzheimer's disease, which makes up 50% to 70% of cases. Other common types include vascular dementia (25%), Lewy body dementia (15%), and frontotemporal dementia. Less common causes include normal pressure hydrocephalus, Parkinson's disease, syphilis, and Creutzfeldt–Jakob disease among others. More than one type of dementia may exist in the same person."
...and under the Signs and Symptoms:
"The symptoms of dementia vary across types and stages of the diagnosis. The most common affected areas include memory, visual-spatial, language, attention and problem solving. Most types of dementia are slow and progressive. By the time the person shows signs of the disorder, the process in the brain has been happening for a long time."
For the most part, Alzheimer's cannot be determined 100% until after death (autopsy.) Several other dementia related conditions have much different progressions (and it does not sound like your grandmother would fall under those, such as Parkinson's, Lewy body, frototemporal.)
When you say "They never give examples of anything and every case is different.", we can tell you yes, every case IS different. Just like every person is different, how the underlying condition manifests and it's progression will be different, HOWEVER, there are common signs that do show up in most people afflicted. Those signs can be different for each underlying cause (please see https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Dementia - it lists the various causes, signs and symptoms, progression, and a lot of useful information.)
If you do read the Wikipedia page listed above, it does describe the stages and what one might expect to observe. Again, not everyone follows the script verbatim. The early stages might not even be noticeable to anyone. My brothers did not catch on because they did not talk to/see mom as often as I would. In her case, the obvious sign was repeating herself, questions and/or comments. It was subtle and started slow, but gradually became SO annoying, until you realize what it is and work around it. However, being with someone all the time can also hamper the observation of these subtle changes (like someone can gradually gain or lose a lot of weight, and you don't observe it because it IS so gradual and you see the person every day, whereas someone who has not seen the person in months will immediately notice the change!) That initial level and even other levels can follow a very slow progression - again it depends on the person. Our mother started this several years ago, and as the article notes, sometimes in retrospect some things she said and did can be put into perspective now (falsely accusing others of taking items, losing/finding items, etc, using an alternate, not-quite-right word for something.) She lived alone, so we started with cameras to check on her or visitors. The inability to properly take care of finances, making errors or paying something late or twice became apparent next and I took this over. We brought in health aides (they had a nurse do the test first) 1 hour/day, which only lasted a few months before she refused to let them in. The repetition of statements and questions became even more pronounced (at this stage, my brothers and nieces were asking what is wrong?) Another thing to note is that some people in the earlier stages can "perform" better when needed (with visitor's, at the doctor's, etc.) This is referred to as "show-timers" and can present the person as being almost normal - this charade cannot be kept up for too long. So, just taking her to the doctor and having him/her check for any signs can yield negative results, when in the earlier stages. A doctor is less likely to know what is normal for this person as he/she sees them so infrequently. After we moved our mother to MC, even more signs became obvious back at the condo. I knew she was eating too many frozen dinners. She used to prepare her food for lunch and dinner, but the freezer was full of unused chicken, vegetables, etc. Fresh vegetables all dried up or moldy in the fridge. Muffins wrapped up but not eaten (some wrapped in torn up grocery bags, despite having excess plastic wrap and baggies!) SO much stuff! Multiples of some items because she would forget she had it and buy more or ask us to get more. No more prep of snack items, eat things that come in a box or bag ready-to-eat (yes, some normal people do this, but this was NOT normal for mom and she was not just being lazy - at this point she could not follow a recipe.) On camera, also starting slow and irregular, was evidence of "sun-downing". It eventually became a nightly marathon, lasting one to one and one half hours before bed, checking the door lock, sidelights (often sneaking up on them, so to speak, as if she expected to see the boogieman out there!), dishwasher, out to the LR and repeat, over and over. I might recheck my lights or sliding door lock, but that is NORMAL, especially where the light switch is not on the path after coming in the slider and often the slider isn't quite latched! Checking it over and over for an hour plus is NOT normal.
To your statement about how everyone forgets things - yes we do. Brain farts is the term I have heard used for these occurrences. It can become more common as you age, but it is NOT dementia. Forgetting where you left your keys (or some other object.) - check! Going through a doorway to do or get something and forgetting why you went there - check! That last one, I read an article about this once that said there is something in the brain that switches when you cross a threshold, which can result in this lapse. I thought it was hogwash, but too often on crossing back over that threshold, the task at hand is retrieved magically! Can't recall the name of that movie, actor, song title - check, check AND check! But eventually, especially if you can forget about it, it will come back to you. With dementia, probably not. Someone's description of things like forgetting where you left your keys vs forgetting what the key is for (or alternately putting that item in an unusual place, like the freezer), that latter would be a later stage of dementia, not the mild or early stages.
Mom was NOT agreeable to moving, but we could not leave her alone. As it is, days before she was to move she injured her leg and developed cellulitis (nothing to do with cellulite - this can kill!) She did not even have enough sense to get it looked at or tell one of us, yet she would call 911 in a heartbeat and get an ambulance ride to the ER if she had a UTI before this stage. She moved into MC January 2017. It took about 9+/- months of asking when she can go back to the condo before that changed to asking for me to drop her off at her mother's (gone about 40 years) or if I had a key to a place she lived over 23 years ago. This is also part of the progression, however there is NO TIME TABLE. Everyone goes down the yellow brick road at their own pace. Some take detours, others never experience some of it, but in general at least vascular and ALZ go this way (again, best to read the Wiki page or go to Alzheimer's website: alz.org, or find more info on this site, as others have suggested.) In mom's case, she still does most ADLs: gets up, cleans up, dresses and toilets fine, goes to bed okay. She cannot cook and repeats herself all the time, and is starting to live somewhat further back in the past. Like someone else said, in most cases the person might not be able to tell you what they had for lunch 10 minutes ago, but a FEW things tend to stand out. In mom's case, I had to take her twice to the dermatologist to treat a basal cell spot on her face. When I check her face, or she sees the recheck appointment on the calendar, she asks why, I thought they already took care of this? Yet at Christmas dinner, she must have said 15 times that we just made it in time for dinner (another resident at the table was baffled, and told her she already said that!) I have observed many of the other residents and you can see how differently this impacts everyone there. Similarities, often yes. Differences? Absolutely. Some of the other causes are even more pronounced in differences (again, see the Wiki page.)
I did read somewhere that cancer treatments can have an impact, so that might play into it. It is hard to tell from your post how long ago that treatment was and how it might have affected her since then. On the other hand, your description of her sounds like perhaps this is just the way she is/was? Or perhaps it is a combination of the two. You did not specify an age, and there ARE age related declines that could be factored in as well, without it being any form of dementia. It could be something completely unrelated that has been there all along. Your examples are not specific enough to suggest what it might be or ways to "test" her - for instance if she is always asking you to find something for her, prompt her with places to look. Don't do it right away (or depending on how important the items is, not at all) and see what happens. More detail would be helpful and explain to us how today's behaviors are different from years ago for her. In the meantime, the resources I and others have provided might help you decide if it might be dementia or not.
This reminded me of what our mother did/said. She would very often, early on, say she doesn't remember something, she forgets, but she's entitled because she is old. Um, yeah... as noted, we do all forget things, but in her case it was more than that, she was forgetting that she forgot stuff! You just couldn't tell her that. Also, early in her MC stay (she was first, several more started shortly after), she read an article in a local paper written by the daughter of a new resident. She loves to read, but in this case it was not a wise choice to leave that paper out for them! There was a picture included of the mother and daughter and mom recognized the mother. So, dear old momsy says to this woman - your kids put you here because you are off your rocker! She also relates the word "dementia" with that connotation. The funny part is she was not able to figure out that since you are also here, you must be 'demented' too! I was horrified to find out she had done this, and just hoped that the other woman would forget it was said, if she even realized what my mother said, and certainly hope the daughter never heard about it! She always has been quick to criticize others, but never sees the same in herself... :-/ At Christmas, she was pointing out another resident's daughter and saying how big she was... my thoughts were 'mom, you need to go look in the mirror!' They had recently asked me to get her some larger undergarments and clothes as she has gained weight (and was no skinny minny before that!)
Also if it is a sudden change then look at UTI as the culprit not dementia - this doesn't mean there is no dementia but that the quick change is due to the UTI & try to remember that some of the acting out is the result of confusion in their mind which leads to fear which leads to anger which leads to the acting out much like a domino effect - much like taking a med that makes you woolly headed & you know something is off but these are done without meds rather from within - I hope this is clear
When my DIL was in MEd School DH and I had flown out to CT to visit the "kids". We were both seriously jet-lagged from the redeye flight and exhausted--the kids had slept all night and were full of energy. We wanted to go to sleep, DIL said "Come for a drive, we'll show you New Haven and I can practice my dementia testing on two people I KNOW don't have dementia!" Ok, we go for the ride and we are so both exhausted that we failed, and failed EPICALLY the "verbal" dementia test. We didn't know what county we were in, we weren't sure what the date was, we didn't know the name of the mayor or governor or what "our" address what.
My DIL got a real kick out of that. I've never forgotten the completely "lost" feeling I had. I truly DIDN'T know a lot of the answers, as I didn't live in CT and had actually never been there before, but due to being so tired, I wasn't even sure who the President was. Made me a lot more sensitive to my parents as they went down that slope. It's very frustrating--esp when you know you know something, but can't drag it out of the recesses of your mind. I imagine real dementia feels like that.
I strongly dislike this disease: no cure . I personally know what my life back tired on her journey. It’s not that easy .
She schedule for CT & EEG . Approval for CT cleared hopefully before Friday Insurance will approval EEG
Again might have to admit her to hospital to get this completed. Because I don’t know 🤷♂️ whom / behavior she might be that day . It’s always wait and see . GB
Otherwise telling the dementia person, i. e. "You already told me that"-you may as well be talking to the wall!