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I was for 19 long months. It about killed me. It seemed to start out alright in the beginning, but as my mother got worse, so did my ability to deal with the situation. We moved my mother into assisted living in April of 2014...I talked with the administrator and cried with the administrator. She told me that she didn't know how I did it as long as I did, and that I was doing the work of a full staff, 3 shifts within a 24 hour period. I returned to school, and the majority of my classes are online. I thought it was going to be the perfect situation. My youngest daughter graduated from high school in 2012, then my dad died that summer. My daughter moved out to start college, and mom came to live with us a couple of weeks later. It was fine until she started to bother me when I was trying to study...the next BIG problem was her days and nights were mixed up. My very patient husband even said, "We can't go on like this". A statement made after getting mom back to bed at 3:30 a.m. (she decided it was time to feed the cats at that hour). Mom still walked and took herself to the bathroom..slowly, but I bathed and dressed her, fixed all of her meals, did her laundry..cleaned up any messes that came about. Sadly, mom is in a wheelchair now (she can still stand a little to transfer)..she is in diapers all the time. I know I couldn't have continued at the pace I was. Being a full time caregiver is hard. We are here if you need to talk or vent!!!! What you are doing isn't easy...even in the best of situations.
I am full time since last Sept. My Mom, 92, fell last June at her home and has been in and out of hospitals and 2 nursing homes for "rehab" which only seemed to add more problems.She was fine up until that fall and walked with a walker. She is at our home now after the 3rd. hospital stay since June. She lost the ability to stand or walk when she fell in June and is pretty much bedridden now. We have to use a hoyer to get her into the wheelchair for her doctor's appointments and a special transport service, and this is always stressfull but we are glad when it has been accomplished.She is very sharp still and at least I can get her to read or watch educational programs when she is not napping. The only way this caregiving works is for her to be in our home where I can go in and out of her room to attend to her yet also take small moments at a time to catch up on housework and bills, etc. There are no siblings to help. I have a nurse and a physical therapist come in. I am tired of hearing physical therapy tell me for 6 months that she will walk again but right now the therapist is working on getting her to stand and transfer to the wheelchair. She says she is ready to pass on but no one seems to listen to her and they keep pumping her up about walking. When does this cross the border from optimistic to just plain naive? At first all this wore me out but I am getting used to the routine by taking it one day at a time, one morning or afternoon at a time, even an hour at a time. There are good and bad days full of worry....more bad than good sometimes. I am just glad when each day is in and it went as usual. I make a little time for myself here and there to read or look at decorating magazines or a little TV but there isnt much time for even that.
I am. I have been doing this for 10 years now..first for my mom who passed from breast cancer then my dads parkinsons got steadily worse. I am now at a scary time where dad wakes up crying scared because he can't move his legs right away. My siblings are basically to selfish to help (dad is a stepdad and i'm his only true sibling and i tell ya i'm feeling it now. It is the hardest and scariest thing i have ever done..not to mention depressing. I am waiting for spring to have a caregiver in. Then i will have some time for my husband and I. If you ever need to talk message me...maybe i can help. Hang in there and Merry Christmas!
I have lived with Mom for just over 2 years now, since Dad became ill and passed away. He fell at home in August 2012 and passed in January 2013 - he never got to come home after that fall sent him to the hospital.
I work from home, so I'm here 24/7, pretty much, which is stressful in and of itself. I have *some* occasional help from family, but none of them come on a regular basis to give me a break. I take one Sunday a month to visit my grandkids, and someone checks on Mom a couple of times, but we're to the point now where I need to hire someone to come and spend most of the day with her while I'm gone. It's just not safe to leave her alone anymore.
We have an appointment with a caregiving agency after Christmas to do an evaluation on Mom and see what we need as far as help.
Been at it for 10 years also. My Mom has Alzheimer's, is blind, can't walk or stand, hands are contracted so she can't feed herself. I am so tired by the time I tend to all of her needs. How ill is your loved one and how do you relax?
Oh my. I'm sorry you have all that on your shoulders. My dad is 77. I try to relax when my husband comes home and i'm not alone anymore. We try to watch a good movie or play a game or play ukelele. Last week i got really lucky and my neice came for the day so i could go shopping with my mom-in-law. Not relaxing but got a day away. Unfortunately it does'nt happen often. I used to read but feel guilty when i do..part of burnout i guess. I also have 3 cats that give me happiness during this. I'm sorry you're dealing with Alzheimers must be the hardest thing ever. This site has great people on it that have suggested many helpful things and I don't feel so alone anymore. I hope even with everything you're going through you can enjoy your holidays. Peace to you. -Cindie.
I have been doing this now for 4 years at first my dad could still do things for himself, but I can safely say for the past 2 years ive been doing the full time job ,the 3 shifts,the nights and days. Where I am right now is I am finding it very difficult to watch my dad be a little less than each day. He just turned 90 and he is doing great for his age, but the day to day struggles that he tries to hide just brings tears to my eyes. I have been a caregiver for many years now caregiving for someone elses parents, and I can truly say that its a much easier task when doing it in a professional manner. But the one thing that puts a smile on my face well it one of those good days. I have gotten to know my father in a whole new way and when im gone for a day or two, I truly miss his company, when I was younger I truly put all my trust on my dad and he never let me down, and now the shoe is on the other foot being his youngest I hope that I make a difference in his quality of life, and I hope that he can trust in me to be there, because no matter what., im here for him, it is not all peaches and cream and I have issues and yes I need time for myself. but what I need and what is presented to me might not be one in the same but I do thank god for giving me thos opportunity , its like that old saying " God will only give u what u can handle" sometimes I feel like he has a little too much faith in me, thank u all for your posts and for listening to me I have found a great outlet even if it is 4 am lol happy new year everybody and have a great day
Jani, I love that quote about being trusted so much. I ask God everyday why I was chosen to take care of my mother. I am tired, lonely and sometimes angry but I get up each day and do the best that I can for her. I know you are doing a great job and I wanted to say thank you for all you do.
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
VI. No Waiver of Your Rights.
APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
I agree that:
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I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information").
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APFM may provide information to me electronically. My electronic signature on agreements and documents has the same effect as if I signed them in ink.
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APFM may send all communications to me electronically via e-mail or by access to an APFM web site.
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If I want a paper copy, I can print a copy of the Disclosures or download the Disclosures for my records.
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This E-Sign Acknowledgement and Authorization applies to these Disclosures and all future Disclosures related to APFM's services, unless I revoke my authorization. You may revoke this authorization in writing at any time (except where we have already disclosed information before receiving your revocation.) This authorization will expire after one year.
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You consent to APFM's reaching out to you using a phone system than can auto-dial numbers (we miss rotary phones, too!), but this consent is not required to use our service.
At first all this wore me out but I am getting used to the routine by taking it one day at a time, one morning or afternoon at a time, even an hour at a time.
There are good and bad days full of worry....more bad than good sometimes. I am just glad when each day is in and it went as usual. I make a little time for myself here and there to read or look at decorating magazines or a little TV but there isnt much time for even that.
I work from home, so I'm here 24/7, pretty much, which is stressful in and of itself. I have *some* occasional help from family, but none of them come on a regular basis to give me a break. I take one Sunday a month to visit my grandkids, and someone checks on Mom a couple of times, but we're to the point now where I need to hire someone to come and spend most of the day with her while I'm gone. It's just not safe to leave her alone anymore.
We have an appointment with a caregiving agency after Christmas to do an evaluation on Mom and see what we need as far as help.