I read this site every day and hear about all the help that is out there! I have been caring for my mother for 3 years and eventually had to get help from the state. For all the people who read this site and do not have a pot to you know what in, you know the kind of help you get for the most part!? Drug users, single mothers, women who came from broken homes and or molested, thieves, and so on! So how about listing sites for the really poor individuals? And if you are extremely lucky to find a good caregiver extra good luck at finding someone for respite care!!! Since the pay is even lower for this category! Not to mention the strangers you are letting in your house!
I also wonder if you could trade with another adult who is caring for a LO. Could you each watch both of them for a limited period of time, allowing the other to have a respite? Let's say it's from 11am to 2pm, so 3 hours. You make lunch, they take a nap, watch some tv or read, and 3 hours goes by. Just a thought.