As a childless elderly couple with no friends or relatives that are physically and mentally able to help us, we are left to our own devices to realize we need help and to seek it. Can you give those of us who don't have all the brains and bodies we used to have when we were only in our 60s the easy to follow steps to find help. We need lots more than doctors. We need housekeepers, handymen types, help with the laundry, help with organizing transportation to doctor appointments, pharmacy, vision, dental, hearing, groceries, bill paying, finding our way on our computers, expecially when those computers don't work and you can't remember how to hook up to the printer or such, telephones, remote control thingy, and stuff. We want to live in our home, but maybe we might need assisted living? And everything, all the above and more, is so overwhelming. Especially living out in the country without neighbors near and nobody delivers anything, you can't even get a taxi. Almost everyone within 5 miles of us is even older than we are. Many of us can't remember information that is only given to us verbally and no one puts anything in writing anymore. What kind of advice can you give those of us that are left out of the conversation?
Alternatively, if you have a faith, start there. With your faith leader.
I trust others will have some advice also.
You have taken the first step 🤗
Good luck!
What you want and what you need are two different things. If you sell your home, you'll be able to afford assisted living. Sell your car, and the AL provides rides to appointments, recreation, etc.
Amazon and Walmart deliver, usually the next day. You need to be able to use a computer for that. Sadly, you think you can't, but perhaps you can. Have you tried? Also, people do put things in writing these days, at least on this planet. Request them to do so.
A geriatrics manager could help to make a plan and find you some resources. But first you'll need to accept what you've already learned - that your present way of life is unsustainable and you'll need to wrap your head around making necessary changes.
Wishing you all the best.
If your husband has service related problems, you may want to talk to your County VA. The rep will come to you. Your husband may becable to get Aid and Attendance for both of you. This would help you hire people you need.