My mom lived with us for 20 years! Our relationship was not good at all for the past 5 years, she has back issues and the last time she fell, I insisted her to go into a nursing home! She is still demanding, I do her wash, bring her snacks, food, and her mouth just pisses me off. She is such a negative person, she is verbally abusive and I can shoot comments right back at her, I have not spoken to her for a couple of days, because I truly don’t want to and don’t care! My dad is living with a relative, but I take care of his meds, finances, drs appts. He is not taking care of himself. Doesn’t wash his clothes, won’t le5 me in his room to get his clothes to wash! I am very embarrased with his appearance. He just doesn’t care
This isn't something I myself would choose to do.
You are an adult and have to make your own decisions and choices now.
I am so sorry that this is what you have decided to do, and I hope it isn't because you hope to hear from these two that you are beloved, good, a wonderful child; that's not likely.
There's two chances at family in this life. The one you are born to in some genetic accident and the one you MAKE of good friends and loved ones.
I sure hope you will devote a lot less time to the undeserving in future because there are so many who ARE deserving. Good luck, sv.