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I've read your earlier posts You wrote that you ended up with the job because no one else would take it.
You've done your time. Time for Golden Boy Brother to step up. Think how happy your mother would be to be taken care of by Golden Boy!
I don't understand why daughters are shoved into the caretaking role. You CAN quit. Do you live with your mother? Or she with you? Either way, this is NOT how life is supposed to be or how life HAS to be.
Tell us more, and we will help you formulate a plan to live your life apart from your mother.
I like "help formulate a plan". Like she's breaking out of jail.
If she is still living on her own it maybe easier to quit. Who has POA, hopefully you. You sit down with brother and tell him you are done. This depends on who has POA. If him, he has to set up caregivers for Mom out of her money. If that can't be done, an AL if affordable or NH on Medicaid. If you have POA, then tell him its homecare, AL or NH. Stick by your guns. Mom is not ur sole responsibility, Your responsibility is to make sure she is safe, clean, fed and cared for. Its not to take her abuse.
You need to formulate a plan for escape. You need to have someplace to go, and if you have no job, some way to support yourself. Just up and leaving isn’t going to work unless you have friends or other family members who will take you in until you can take care of yourself. If your mom has been footing the bill for you, you need to be able to take care of your own needs on your own.
When you figure this out and all plans are in place, write your brother a “resignation letter”. Keep it very businesslike. No insults or accusations. You don’t want it to be used against you in the future. Just the facts. Your mother is his responsibility now and you are out of it. Permanently. Be aware that when you leave, that’s it. Make sure that’s what you want forever.
We have many caregivers who write and say they’re being abused, verbally and sometimes even physically. Mothers vs. daughters seem to top the list. And I have yet to read of a family caregiver who gets paid unless it’s from their loved one’s own finances.
You are welcomed to write us as often as you want, but understand that your future is in your hands. If you do nothing, nothing will change.
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
VI. No Waiver of Your Rights.
APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
I agree that:
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I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information").
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APFM may provide information to me electronically. My electronic signature on agreements and documents has the same effect as if I signed them in ink.
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APFM may send all communications to me electronically via e-mail or by access to an APFM web site.
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If I want a paper copy, I can print a copy of the Disclosures or download the Disclosures for my records.
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This E-Sign Acknowledgement and Authorization applies to these Disclosures and all future Disclosures related to APFM's services, unless I revoke my authorization. You may revoke this authorization in writing at any time (except where we have already disclosed information before receiving your revocation.) This authorization will expire after one year.
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You consent to APFM's reaching out to you using a phone system than can auto-dial numbers (we miss rotary phones, too!), but this consent is not required to use our service.
You've done your time. Time for Golden Boy Brother to step up. Think how happy your mother would be to be taken care of by Golden Boy!
I don't understand why daughters are shoved into the caretaking role. You CAN quit. Do you live with your mother? Or she with you? Either way, this is NOT how life is supposed to be or how life HAS to be.
Tell us more, and we will help you formulate a plan to live your life apart from your mother.
If she is still living on her own it maybe easier to quit. Who has POA, hopefully you. You sit down with brother and tell him you are done. This depends on who has POA. If him, he has to set up caregivers for Mom out of her money. If that can't be done, an AL if affordable or NH on Medicaid. If you have POA, then tell him its homecare, AL or NH. Stick by your guns. Mom is not ur sole responsibility, Your responsibility is to make sure she is safe, clean, fed and cared for. Its not to take her abuse.
When you figure this out and all plans are in place, write your brother a “resignation letter”. Keep it very businesslike. No insults or accusations. You don’t want it to be used against you in the future. Just the facts. Your mother is his responsibility now and you are out of it. Permanently. Be aware that when you leave, that’s it. Make sure that’s what you want forever.
We have many caregivers who write and say they’re being abused, verbally and sometimes even physically. Mothers vs. daughters seem to top the list. And I have yet to read of a family caregiver who gets paid unless it’s from their loved one’s own finances.
You are welcomed to write us as often as you want, but understand that your future is in your hands. If you do nothing, nothing will change.