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The financial POA can do this, yes. Mom's social security would have to go into another account, but sister could set one up that you have no access to.
As moms primary caregiver, you should have a contract drawn up to receive a certain amount of money each week or month, and no more. No child should have access to all their parents finances to use on themselves.
Why are you dependent on your mother's income and not your own? And yes if your sister is your mother's POA she now has to do what is in the best interest of your mother not you, and that may mean that all of your mother's money now goes towards her care which is only right. I hope you're able to find a job and can now start paying your own way in this life, as that is how it should be.
If she has POA, then yes, she can cut you off. Mom's money is for her and her care. If you agree to be her caregiver, then you and mom and sis need to come to an agreement on how much you get paid. Right now, though, you aren't doing any caregiving because mom is in a nursing home. Is she expected to come home? If so, and if you want to be paid to be her caregiver, you must come to an agreement with your sister and mother if she's competent.
If you and Mom had a written agreement - you giving up outside work to be full-time with Mom - you might have something to appeal with Sis. But, it seems circumstances have changed - Mom may get stuck there, Sis is managing her finances - so it may be wise to ramp up your job skills (I know folks who've gotten on-the-job training as pharmacy technicians) and support Mom emotionally with visits and calls.
I agree with mstrbill. Your sister has POA. That means that she can change your mother's accounts. However, if she cannot have mom re-direct her social security as representative payee for SS she may have a more difficult time having the SS check changed from current account to new account. She can, therefore, move all funds from the current accounts putting them in your mother's name only with her as POA and signee on checks. It "may" be more difficult to get SS check moved to new accounts and it may not. Depends on the bank's rules. You should not have been accessing money from your mother's accounts for yourself. Your mother's money is hers. If you were her caregiver, and living with her free of charge, you may have had a right to her funds in order to shop for food and so on. That should have been by a contract drawn by an elder law attorney.
Not going through legal steps often ends this way, and we have many times seen caregivers end up with their elder in care, or passed on, and those caregivers with no jobs, no job history and no income. We usually direct them to homeless shelters because we have no idea what other options there may be.
If you were primary caregiver for your mother I hope that you were not estranged from your POA sister. I hope that the two of you can talk and discuss. I am sorry and wish you the best going forward.
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I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
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As moms primary caregiver, you should have a contract drawn up to receive a certain amount of money each week or month, and no more. No child should have access to all their parents finances to use on themselves.
And yes if your sister is your mother's POA she now has to do what is in the best interest of your mother not you, and that may mean that all of your mother's money now goes towards her care which is only right.
I hope you're able to find a job and can now start paying your own way in this life, as that is how it should be.
You should not have been accessing money from your mother's accounts for yourself. Your mother's money is hers. If you were her caregiver, and living with her free of charge, you may have had a right to her funds in order to shop for food and so on. That should have been by a contract drawn by an elder law attorney.
Not going through legal steps often ends this way, and we have many times seen caregivers end up with their elder in care, or passed on, and those caregivers with no jobs, no job history and no income. We usually direct them to homeless shelters because we have no idea what other options there may be.
If you were primary caregiver for your mother I hope that you were not estranged from your POA sister. I hope that the two of you can talk and discuss.
I am sorry and wish you the best going forward.