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Would you like to say a little more about the context in which this is happening? What are you and your sister each doing in terms of caregiving, and what are the misunderstandings about mainly?
Sister is 10 years younger - I am the oldest of four and I do 90% of work including all financial and health - medical etc- get 10% help from 2 others but the one that is youngest lives across country- I think she intentionally thinks I am bossing her around- she will say “mom says” and of course mom has dementia- and I will just conversationally text supportive conversation and add about just redirecting- I try to be conversational - I don’t know what else to say as I am tired- estate sale over weekend and trying to clean up house that is 4 hours away from 3 of us- and mom close to us now in memory care- I feel that all of them kinda look at me like bossy but again- I do 90% work and hard to get a lot of help- tired
Feel for you. There is always one family member like this. Its really hard to text and get across how u feel. Maybe a phone call would be better. Say ur sorry if you are coming across bossy u don't mean to. Tell her you just trying to explain that Mom, with Dementia, is no longer able to reason. She is in her own little world and as such believes what she says. My Mom thought I was lying about a baby in the AL. She kept looking for it because she heard it crying. They are delusional, paranoid and have hullucinations. I too am the oldest of four. I too took care of everything. My brothers were happy to let me handle everything. No complaints, TG. I too cleaned out a farm house. Now I am getting ready to go to probate. The only thing Mom has is a 125 yr old farm house that is falling apart and sits on wetlands. Its been up for sale for over two years.
Annabelle - I am so sorry you are having difficulty communicating with your sister.
I think if you are doing 90% of the work, you are entitled to run the ship as you see fit and it sounds like you are doing a wonderful job.
When siblings live hours away, they do not realize how stressful the caregiving job is. They also believe every word the elderly parent with dementia tells them and they act on it. I have gone through this with a sibling who lives across the state. She constantly tells me I am WRONG and that is not what mother told HER. So much confusion.
Managing an elderly is hard on all families. Some are better equipped to handle caregiving and POA duties and others may not be there physically but could help monetarily or come visit for a week and give you a vacation.
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
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APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
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Would you like to say a little more about the context in which this is happening? What are you and your sister each doing in terms of caregiving, and what are the misunderstandings about mainly?
I think if you are doing 90% of the work, you are entitled to run the ship as you see fit and it sounds like you are doing a wonderful job.
When siblings live hours away, they do not realize how stressful the caregiving job is. They also believe every word the elderly parent with dementia tells them and they act on it. I have gone through this with a sibling who lives across the state. She constantly tells me I am WRONG and that is not what mother told HER. So much confusion.
Managing an elderly is hard on all families. Some are better equipped to handle caregiving and POA duties and others may not be there physically but could help monetarily or come visit for a week and give you a vacation.
Good luck and I will keep you in my prayers.