He said it’s in his bones. He is 62, bad serosis, insulin dependent diabetic & has high blood pressure. He said his platlets are low & he's succeptible to infection. He told me & 1 sister that was there. He is estranged from his 3 adult children, but I am in contact (initiated solely by me) with 1 of them. He’s also estranged from other siblings. No real fallouts just not interested in keeping in touch from him or them. Yes family is/has been disfunctional. Do I tell his son? The other siblings? I’m thinking not, phones work both ways. I’ve stayed in touch, I’m sure he could with them & they with him. Since they are dysfunctional I expect blow back for not sharing but since their interest in their own mother/grandmother has been lacking I don’t think I care at this point. I guess I’m wondering if I’m honoring my brothers decision to share or not or just being spiteful. He could’ve told me even in the hopes I would share. He wouldn’t come out & say that though. I guess I’m thinking out loud here but I really hate regrets.
I am sorry you are going through so much.
My sister wouldn't let people near her that she had issues with and I still feel like she cheated them out of saying sorry. Now they can never make it right and I find that sadder than the fact she died at 52.
Just my viewpoint.
I think it is a great plan to drive out to your brother's house to get more information and see what he wants.
I wish you all the best. I am sorry that you are going through so much.