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I. How We Work in Washington. Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services. APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
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Your loved one may not require home care or assisted living services at this time. However, continue to monitor their condition for changes and consider occasional in-home care services for help as needed.
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You state in your profile "I help my mom get most of her meals, do the shopping, and clean around the house."
and that your mother "... is 84 years old, living at home with age-related decline, anxiety, arthritis, depression, hearing loss, incontinence, mobility problems, sleep disorder, and vision problems."
Soon your mother is going to need more help than what you are giving her now. I'm assuming you live with her, and that you moved in originally 8 years ago to save money as a single mother? Are you still working? Now that your children are grown, can you meet your living expenses on your own?
How does she get to medical appointments? Other activities? Are you her driver? Are you her POA/HCPOA? What is her financial situation? Are you an only child?
Most people don't "want" to go into a facility. But what they want and what they need are two different things. And it's not an option for to "want" YOU to live with her and care for her. It's your choice.
So, you will need to find other solutions to her many needs and find yourself a new place to live. She will likely be mad and hurt and try to make you feel guilty. Don't let it sway you from your decision. You are entitled to live your own life.
Meals - sign her up for meals on wheels House - hire someone to clean the house (with her money) and take care of any other things that need to be done Shopping - most things can be ordered online and delivered
What you describe actually IS a lot of help. As you've no doubt figured out, this will only get worse.
Congratulations on deciding you don't want to do it. Now take steps to get out from under.
If you live with mom, you need to find another place to live. Be forthright and explain that you need to pursue your own life.
Unfortunately, there's a whole lot of overentitled senior adults who will take advantage of their children. They didn't plan for old age, they didn't save for it, and they don't care if they ruin your life. But that is not YOUR problem. It's hers. Tell her that and save yourself.
Expect her to cry cry cry and moan and accuse you of letting her down. Don't accept that. What she wants isn't what she needs. She needs to go to a place where she can enjoy activities, socialize and be cared for by professionals.
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
VI. No Waiver of Your Rights.
APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
I agree that:
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I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information").
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APFM may provide information to me electronically. My electronic signature on agreements and documents has the same effect as if I signed them in ink.
C.
APFM may send all communications to me electronically via e-mail or by access to an APFM web site.
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If I want a paper copy, I can print a copy of the Disclosures or download the Disclosures for my records.
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This E-Sign Acknowledgement and Authorization applies to these Disclosures and all future Disclosures related to APFM's services, unless I revoke my authorization. You may revoke this authorization in writing at any time (except where we have already disclosed information before receiving your revocation.) This authorization will expire after one year.
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You consent to APFM's reaching out to you using a phone system than can auto-dial numbers (we miss rotary phones, too!), but this consent is not required to use our service.
and that your mother "... is 84 years old, living at home with age-related decline, anxiety, arthritis, depression, hearing loss, incontinence, mobility problems, sleep disorder, and vision problems."
Soon your mother is going to need more help than what you are giving her now. I'm assuming you live with her, and that you moved in originally 8 years ago to save money as a single mother? Are you still working? Now that your children are grown, can you meet your living expenses on your own?
How does she get to medical appointments? Other activities? Are you her driver? Are you her POA/HCPOA? What is her financial situation? Are you an only child?
She can hire a cleaning lady to help around the house.
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So, you will need to find other solutions to her many needs and find yourself a new place to live. She will likely be mad and hurt and try to make you feel guilty. Don't let it sway you from your decision. You are entitled to live your own life.
Meals - sign her up for meals on wheels
House - hire someone to clean the house (with her money) and take care of any other things that need to be done
Shopping - most things can be ordered online and delivered
Best of luck.
Congratulations on deciding you don't want to do it. Now take steps to get out from under.
If you live with mom, you need to find another place to live. Be forthright and explain that you need to pursue your own life.
Unfortunately, there's a whole lot of overentitled senior adults who will take advantage of their children. They didn't plan for old age, they didn't save for it, and they don't care if they ruin your life. But that is not YOUR problem. It's hers. Tell her that and save yourself.
Expect her to cry cry cry and moan and accuse you of letting her down. Don't accept that. What she wants isn't what she needs. She needs to go to a place where she can enjoy activities, socialize and be cared for by professionals.
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Has Mom looked into hiring cleaning help; Meals on Wheels?