Both me and my husband are disabled and I find it extremely difficult to care for her. She can hardly walk and has a very bad heart and kidneys that is gradually failing. My brother who has been taking care of her past six months is now in sever financial and family crisis and is rejecting to take care of my poor mom. He is. US citizen She has nowhere to go and can’t even fly back to the US, with a tourist visa that ends soon. I am in so much pain emotionally and physically and can’t even care for myself. I feel so sad for her who is basically homeless and is stuck in her last stage of her life. Can she stays in the UK? Though, if so, I can’t take care of her due to my own physical limitations and marriage problem with a verbally and emotionally abusing husband. I feel totally devastated. More than anyone I am worried about my mom. what would or should happen to her. Anyone can advise please. I am helpless and hopeless…thank you
If she is a UK citizen and you bring her to the US, if she gets hospitalized with no insurance, the bill will be huge.
I would get in touch with social services. They could at least point you in the right direction.
As you can imagine, we can have no more answers to this unhappy situation across the pond than you do. I think that the British system with its national health is less likely to let a 90 year old die in the streets than we are, but I can't really know. I am very sorry. Your mother, wherever she is currently may be in end of life stages. This rather make me hope she is in UK where she will receive some care of some kind.
What is also clear is that you are in no condition to address this problem yourself. I must weigh heavily on you. I would, were I you, contact APS for your own solutions and ask them for guidance so that you can escape the abuse you feel stuck in.
I am very sorry for all you are going through.