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You need to get back to work to secure your future. You are getting close to SS age and every penny counts towards the money you will receive. How is Moms income? If only SS and maybe a pension, then Medicaid maybe able to help with Homecare or even a Daycare. Office of Aging is a good start too. If Mom has some savings then use it for soomeone to be with her while you work.
You have to help yourself before you can be any help to your mom. That’s not selfish, it’s just true. Do what’s necessary to take care of yourself, whatever that looks like, and you’ll do your best for your mom. The advice already given by rocketjcat is solid, I hope you’ll take steps now
Sorry you’re feeling hopeless and depressed. It is a depressing situation we all seem to be in, trying to do the best we can for our elderly parents, with seeming no set of instructions or guidance. But doing “something” often times makes us feel more in control of the situation. You don’t say what your Moms infirmities are but I would start with her doctor and get a formal idea of her needed care. Contributors to the forum often also suggest getting a Needs Assessment done through your Office of the Aging. They can direct you to social services that may be available. If there’s a house involved, a call to a lawyer familiar with Medicaid law can guide you financially since it sounds like Medicaid may be in your future. Do you have POA? Is she competent enough to give it to you now? Handle that with the lawyer as well.
Just a bit of consolation...no one wants to put their loved one in a nursing home. The NHs are full of elderly who’s kids didn’t want to have to resort to it. But there they are. Sometimes the needs of the loved one have to take presidence over the wants. We’ve been forced into the thankless position of being the adult, when all we want is our old parents back, they way they used to be, and for us to be the kid again. Unfortunately it’s nots working out that way, and we must do the best we can. You need to get back in the workforce and look toward your own future. Your Mom would probably want that for you.
Thank you for the advice. I do have POA. We had an assement done 2 years ago the said she has to be down to 2 thousand dollars in her 401k before medicaid will help, that will be in about 6 months or so. Agency has not been very helpful. I dont even know how much home health care they will give her. Shes diabetic blind and can barely walk with her walker. I searched all over the internet to try to find help. I worked in a nursing home for 15 years and the care isnt good overall. They do a good job hiding it from the public and when investigators from the state come in. Thanks again
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
VI. No Waiver of Your Rights.
APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
I agree that:
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I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information").
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APFM may provide information to me electronically. My electronic signature on agreements and documents has the same effect as if I signed them in ink.
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APFM may send all communications to me electronically via e-mail or by access to an APFM web site.
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If I want a paper copy, I can print a copy of the Disclosures or download the Disclosures for my records.
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This E-Sign Acknowledgement and Authorization applies to these Disclosures and all future Disclosures related to APFM's services, unless I revoke my authorization. You may revoke this authorization in writing at any time (except where we have already disclosed information before receiving your revocation.) This authorization will expire after one year.
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You consent to APFM's reaching out to you using a phone system than can auto-dial numbers (we miss rotary phones, too!), but this consent is not required to use our service.
How is Moms income? If only SS and maybe a pension, then Medicaid maybe able to help with Homecare or even a Daycare. Office of Aging is a good start too. If Mom has some savings then use it for soomeone to be with her while you work.
Just a bit of consolation...no one wants to put their loved one in a nursing home. The NHs are full of elderly who’s kids didn’t want to have to resort to it. But there they are. Sometimes the needs of the loved one have to take presidence over the wants. We’ve been forced into the thankless position of being the adult, when all we want is our old parents back, they way they used to be, and for us to be the kid again. Unfortunately it’s nots working out that way, and we must do the best we can. You need to get back in the workforce and look toward your own future. Your Mom would probably want that for you.