May not be enough space.....she is 76, with a lot of auto immune issues. Non Hodgkins lymp. Colitis. Arthritis, hoshimotos thyroiditis, depression,anxiety.divorced from my father 45 years, widowed 13 years from my step father. A great man!
Still not over either. Many relationship mistakes in her life. As well as losses by death. Lost mother at 28 . In my opinion became addicted to percocet before nkneew replacement. This is the biggest reason she came to our home as she was just not safe on her own. No matter what she is angry 85% Of
Tell us more about why you think it may not be working? Are you the target of her anger?
For me that point was when the situation at home got so stressful that I was looking forward to days at my client's office. Fingers crossed we are moving dad to assisted living on Friday.
Julieew, is assisted living an option? There is much to be said for turning the day to day situation over to professionals who aren't emotionally involved in the way you are. Just watching my dad interact with the director of nursing at his soon-to-be-ALF was enlightening--she clearly has a knack for communicating with people on the dementia scale, and he accepted things from her (well, you're the professional) that he wouldn't even consider coming from me.
And yes, having a diagnosis helps. We're still in the process, but already know that he has cognitive and brain-cell damage greater than is considered "normal" for his age, and is declining fairly rapidly. Part of the goal with moving him to AL is to see if increasing physical activity and social interaction will reduce the rate of decline.
I think that is the answer to your question, too. How will you know when it isn't working out? You'll know! As others have said, just asking the question is a clue. You've gotten some good advice for planning ahead for when the answer becomes "it is not working out now."
Come back and share the diagnosis. Good luck!