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Years ago I kept track of thoughts, ‘to-do’ lists from parents, their hospital admissions and discharge info. It helped retain sanity in making sure I had done certain things, and the result. I carried a notebook with me. Follow-up on paper became difficult; I wondered if electronic would be a better way to go if for no other reason than to edit as needed. I read through it few years later - same old same old repeated with just names, dates and places changing. Thanks to this Forum, I realized I was an enabler with a hard learning curve! I eventually destroyed the notebook.
As I’m traveling this caregiving path again, now with hubs. I sense a need to keep track of the odd comments made, things that happen that may need to be documented for discussions with health care professionals, etc. SLUMS test was given recently. Yes there are many options available. If you kept a caregiving journal or diary, what format did you use and what worked best for you?
Under topics, not finding one that fits this issue and can only pick one so I used family caregiver.

I kept a diary, hand written, no tearouts (composition book), written in ink with cross outs and no erasers. These are admissible in court if ever needed.
I also kept a running diary of assets in and assets out of his assets/accounts. MOnthly copy to him and for me. I also keep a running list of tests done, date and result. I also kept files for all bills I paid, with receipts, copies of bills, checks sent.

You got it. I am a bit OCD and I did total overkill.
I recently read my diaries, and while sad, they were sure interesting. It's 5 years next May, since D's death, and I will bury them in a dumpster when that comes. Tough times.
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Anxietynacy Sep 26, 2024
Alva I do need to start journaling again. I journal them I though it away, after a while.

I'll reread what I wrote, and think , well that was stupid, and bury it in the garage.
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You could video whatever seems relevant with your phone. A video diary might be easier and less time consuming for you.
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I’ve been adding brief notes to my calendar on the phone and iPad. I’ll probably need more space later but right now it’s working pretty well. It does help to document the odd behaviors and looking at a whole month at a time is useful to see patterns as they relate to other things like med changes and illnesses, etc.

My SIL kept hand written diaries more like AlvaDeer. She shared them with me after her DH passed from Parkinson’s dementia. I found them devastating to read but they were somehow comforting to her after his death.

Video is a great idea too but I never seem to have my phone in my hand at the right moment. Maybe later when the weird behaviors become more the rule than the exception.
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I was taking my parents to the doctor , ordering their meds for years . My Dad at one point had about a dozen doctors , Mom not as many . I had a LARGE appointment calendar , the size of a standard 9X 12 sized notebook , that I would write things down to address with the corresponding doctor on the next visit . I sometimes would bring up somethlng to multiple doctors so they were aware of a change , as they did not seem to always read each other’s progress notes . So that issue I would write under more than one appointment .

For example , the cardiologist didn’t pay attention to what the nephrologist recommended . The cardiologist needed to be reminded that Dad had kidneys , as he seemed so bent on getting Dads heart to last . The nephrologist decreased the dose of his BP med to spare his kidneys. A more moderate approach was needed to keep the kidneys working as well as his heart .
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