Are you sure you want to exit? Your progress will be lost.
Who are you caring for?
Which best describes their mobility?
How well are they maintaining their hygiene?
How are they managing their medications?
Does their living environment pose any safety concerns?
Fall risks, spoiled food, or other threats to wellbeing
Are they experiencing any memory loss?
Which best describes your loved one's social life?
Acknowledgment of Disclosures and Authorization
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington. Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services. APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid. We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour. APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment. You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints. Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
VI. No Waiver of Your Rights. APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.I agree that: A.I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information"). B.APFM may provide information to me electronically. My electronic signature on agreements and documents has the same effect as if I signed them in ink. C.APFM may send all communications to me electronically via e-mail or by access to an APFM web site. D.If I want a paper copy, I can print a copy of the Disclosures or download the Disclosures for my records. E.This E-Sign Acknowledgement and Authorization applies to these Disclosures and all future Disclosures related to APFM's services, unless I revoke my authorization. You may revoke this authorization in writing at any time (except where we have already disclosed information before receiving your revocation.) This authorization will expire after one year. F.You consent to APFM's reaching out to you using a phone system than can auto-dial numbers (we miss rotary phones, too!), but this consent is not required to use our service.
✔
I acknowledge and authorize
✔
I consent to the collection of my consumer health data.*
✔
I consent to the sharing of my consumer health data with qualified home care agencies.*
*If I am consenting on behalf of someone else, I have the proper authorization to do so. By clicking Get My Results, you agree to our Privacy Policy. You also consent to receive calls and texts, which may be autodialed, from us and our customer communities. Your consent is not a condition to using our service. Please visit our Terms of Use. for information about our privacy practices.
Mostly Independent
Your loved one may not require home care or assisted living services at this time. However, continue to monitor their condition for changes and consider occasional in-home care services for help as needed.
Remember, this assessment is not a substitute for professional advice.
Share a few details and we will match you to trusted home care in your area:
Hello i know that they are doing what they are supposed to at the hospital. There was a Covid outbreak in the ward and they are all working hard. But I’m sorta alone. I have to travel out of town to the hospital either an hour and a half bus or a taxi or a ridei work and have responsibilities so I can’t be there as much as I want Not much in the way of other visitors her siblings are elderly too.My sister is mentally ill she can’t help My husband works alotSo mom has cancer of the blood, and had a bowel blockage. She got really sick then got better but then her blood cancer flared up and she needed transfusions again. Now she’s weak she fell twice recently this latest time hurt her thumb really badly it’s sprained plus bruised all over Shes on pain meds can’t walk anymore is very confused Doctors don’t let me know what is happening to herI get scared. I don’t want to lose her but I don’t want her to suffer I want her to get exercise again, and see the sunshine and listen to music and whatever makes her smile frankly I’m worriedany words of encouragement?
seeing someone you love suffering and moving towards the end is very hard and I get you feel like you wish you could help her. If you do get the chance to push her out in the sunshine or by a window, or play some of her favorite music like funky grandma says, that would be good for you and for your mom. Or bring her flowers or a bite of something she loves or a picture of the two of you when you were on vacation or holidays or happy. Or just hold her hand and brush her hair and tell her you love her and she was a good mom (if this is true) or remind her of one or two of your favorite memories together from long ago. Even if she can’t respond. If she is worried about something like what will happen after she is gone, tell her it’s OK and you will take care of it.
Everything is going to be OK. You can get through this even if it feels like you can’t. Just breathe and know that what is, is. When suffering or disease is intense and there is no possibility of recovery, death is no longer to be feared. It instead becomes release.
Your mom is where she needs to be right now and I'm sure being well taken care of. And I'm sure that you can call the nurses station nearest her room any time to check on her. Hopefully the next time you get to see her you will be able to push her outside in a wheelchair for some fresh air and sunshine, and get to play her some of her favorite music.
Pirate, It sounds like you are very upset. I understand why, it sounds like your mom is very ill, but you need to get control of your emotions.
You posted same thing, 5 or 6 times it's obvious you are at the end of your rope, you can't help your mom with this strong of emotions, and this is not healthy for you.
So try some breathing exercises, catch your breath.
I'm wondering what's your moms age?
You are right now , in fight, flight or freeze mode.
Do some mindfulness, then explain to us better what's going on.
Helpful Answer (1)
Reply to Anxietynacy
Report
X
See -1 more reply
Ask a Question
Success!
One of our advisors will contact you soon to connect you with trusted sources for care in your area.
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
VI. No Waiver of Your Rights.
APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
I agree that:
A.
I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information").
B.
APFM may provide information to me electronically. My electronic signature on agreements and documents has the same effect as if I signed them in ink.
C.
APFM may send all communications to me electronically via e-mail or by access to an APFM web site.
D.
If I want a paper copy, I can print a copy of the Disclosures or download the Disclosures for my records.
E.
This E-Sign Acknowledgement and Authorization applies to these Disclosures and all future Disclosures related to APFM's services, unless I revoke my authorization. You may revoke this authorization in writing at any time (except where we have already disclosed information before receiving your revocation.) This authorization will expire after one year.
F.
You consent to APFM's reaching out to you using a phone system than can auto-dial numbers (we miss rotary phones, too!), but this consent is not required to use our service.
Everything is going to be OK. You can get through this even if it feels like you can’t. Just breathe and know that what is, is. When suffering or disease is intense and there is no possibility of recovery, death is no longer to be feared. It instead becomes release.
Hopefully the next time you get to see her you will be able to push her outside in a wheelchair for some fresh air and sunshine, and get to play her some of her favorite music.
You posted same thing, 5 or 6 times it's obvious you are at the end of your rope, you can't help your mom with this strong of emotions, and this is not healthy for you.
So try some breathing exercises, catch your breath.
I'm wondering what's your moms age?
You are right now , in fight, flight or freeze mode.
Do some mindfulness, then explain to us better what's going on.