My mom is in relatively good health and lives alone but with good friends as neighbors. I wonder if she is depressed or should her feelings be expected after losing her husband after so many happy years together. I live quite a distance away with a family and job so relocating to her state is not an option at this time and she does not want to leave the state she lives in to come north to me. how can i help?
That, and let a bit of time pass, and then see where you are. In the fullness of time she may want to revisit her options; meanwhile be glad of her good neighbours and allow her to mourn.
My mother lost her husband of 64 years three years ago. It was very hard, so I know there are no easy answers on how to help.