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Keepingup..... You need help!!! not just for mom but you need it as well. If (and I hope you do) get help in your mom will not like this but you tell her the help is for you not her. she can not argue with that. If this is your home.. Your home YOUR rules! So with the help that you WILL get mom has 2 options. 1) She can put her laundry by the door 1 time a week and it will be picked up and returned to the door washed and folded. 2) You will have your helper go into her area and gather her soiled laundry and it will be picked up and washed and then returned.
Your mom has dementia and she will continue to decline. There is a real possibility that you will not be able to care for her safely in the very near future. You are going to have to seriously consider placing her in Memory Care. This is not going to be an easy decision nor one that she is going to like but it is reality.
The 2 criteria that I used when caring for my Husband Was it safe for HIM for me to care for him at home? Was it safe for ME for me to care for him at home? I told myself early on if the answer to either of these changed to NO then I would have to place him in Memory Care. Luckily for me he was compliant and I had help with equipment from Hospice and the VA that I was able to keep him at home. So use the same criteria. If it is not safe for YOU, if it is not safe for her she needs to be placed for safety. This is all inclusive physical, mental and emotional safety that I am talking about.
A few suggestion that might, again might help. (hard to change the thinking of anyone let alone an 85 yer old) Replace the water lines that fill the washer with ones that are a metal mesh type these are much stronger and are less likely to leak or break. There are pans to put under a washer that will contain water if the washer does leak. Put one of these under her washer. No way a dryer will leak. Although there are dryer fires caused by lint build up so make sure lint filter and hose are cleaned.
You say she is living in your home. Can you not take her laundry to a "Wash and fold" place and drop it off for her? Or just do her laundry yourself? I know it is one more task that you have to absorb but this is the life of caring for someone with dementia, there will always be one more task you absorb until you are overwhelmed.
At some point with dementia you can not give someone the option of doing or not doing something you need to take over and this might be the time you stop giving options in this matter.
The puppies are all brand new. My brother in law is a contractor. And I.have multiple sclerosis, cannot drive. There is a local.laundry company that is wonderful but she won't let them touch her sheets, etc. I am starting to worry social services will discover this. Years with no laundry done does not smell healthy.
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
VI. No Waiver of Your Rights.
APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
I agree that:
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I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information").
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APFM may provide information to me electronically. My electronic signature on agreements and documents has the same effect as if I signed them in ink.
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APFM may send all communications to me electronically via e-mail or by access to an APFM web site.
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If I want a paper copy, I can print a copy of the Disclosures or download the Disclosures for my records.
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This E-Sign Acknowledgement and Authorization applies to these Disclosures and all future Disclosures related to APFM's services, unless I revoke my authorization. You may revoke this authorization in writing at any time (except where we have already disclosed information before receiving your revocation.) This authorization will expire after one year.
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You consent to APFM's reaching out to you using a phone system than can auto-dial numbers (we miss rotary phones, too!), but this consent is not required to use our service.
You need help!!! not just for mom but you need it as well.
If (and I hope you do) get help in your mom will not like this but you tell her the help is for you not her. she can not argue with that.
If this is your home.. Your home YOUR rules!
So with the help that you WILL get mom has 2 options.
1) She can put her laundry by the door 1 time a week and it will be picked up and returned to the door washed and folded.
2) You will have your helper go into her area and gather her soiled laundry and it will be picked up and washed and then returned.
Your mom has dementia and she will continue to decline. There is a real possibility that you will not be able to care for her safely in the very near future. You are going to have to seriously consider placing her in Memory Care. This is not going to be an easy decision nor one that she is going to like but it is reality.
The 2 criteria that I used when caring for my Husband
Was it safe for HIM for me to care for him at home?
Was it safe for ME for me to care for him at home?
I told myself early on if the answer to either of these changed to NO then I would have to place him in Memory Care. Luckily for me he was compliant and I had help with equipment from Hospice and the VA that I was able to keep him at home.
So use the same criteria.
If it is not safe for YOU, if it is not safe for her she needs to be placed for safety.
This is all inclusive physical, mental and emotional safety that I am talking about.
Replace the water lines that fill the washer with ones that are a metal mesh type these are much stronger and are less likely to leak or break.
There are pans to put under a washer that will contain water if the washer does leak. Put one of these under her washer.
No way a dryer will leak. Although there are dryer fires caused by lint build up so make sure lint filter and hose are cleaned.
You say she is living in your home. Can you not take her laundry to a "Wash and fold" place and drop it off for her? Or just do her laundry yourself? I know it is one more task that you have to absorb but this is the life of caring for someone with dementia, there will always be one more task you absorb until you are overwhelmed.
At some point with dementia you can not give someone the option of doing or not doing something you need to take over and this might be the time you stop giving options in this matter.