Does anyone else have the same problems with their elderly parents who have Carers?
My 82 year old mother keeps saying that the Caregivers are stealing cheese or bread from her house I tell her to stop being ridiculous as nobody is going to jeopardise their job for a lot of rubbish. Last week it was false teeth cleaner this week it’s cheese or she said when they are taking her bin out they are putting a jumper in the bag to smuggle out to their car. My dear friend who was only 60 passed away last year and she used to say the same but then my friend had brain damage caused by a stroke so it was accepted that was the cause of her saying this. It’s driving me mad and hate the same scenario every week with my mother I dread having to visit her now.
This is a fairly common action among people developing cognitive failure. My grandmother was obsessed by the fact that the chickens were being stolen from a neighboring yard.
Someone suffering from this symptom cannot be persuaded otherwise, and you will most likely feel worse for having tried it. You can try saying “I’ll put the cheese (or whatever) in the closet in my room (or her room) and caregiver won’t know where they are”.
Understand, nothing will stop or change her thinking, but at some future point, it may stop or change to something else.
Whether or not caregivers steal, if the thinking of a victim of cognitive impairment can’t be verified, it may be unfair to all concerned to assume anything.
I suspect a worker is stealing so the other day, I filled the K-cup drawer before the shift-35 cups, after the 4 hour shift, 4 left.
Just because there is dementia, does not mean there is not some truth to it. It is a fine line though. I would not believe it either if I was you but I have seen it first hand with several carers.
My friend's mom says that her aides are stealing the container the grapes came in (not the grapes; the disposable container).
Response should be "hmmmm" or " I'll look into that".
Don't contradict. Don't argue.
I guess if she truly believes it seeing proof wouldn't help at this point.
I know that must be frustrating,