85 yr old dementia MIL went on hunger strike after AssLIv placement and then placed in psych hosp for a few days but ate right away there she has been living w/family members x 3yrs. tried assisted living to see if she would embrace the change after agreeing to 30 day trial which she says she doesn't remember. only was there 1 wk but went on basically a hunger strike right away by refusing meals but nibbling food in her room as soon as she moved in. AssLIv facility called dr who ordered psych placement in hosp but she starting eating as soon as she was there w/more restrictions put on her than AssLiv. Now even though she is out and back w/family she is miserable b/c her wording her kids did this to her. she is very religious and is against suicide but wants to die. she has apt w/geriatric psych in 3 wks. any suggestions
It's good that you have that Dr.'s appointment. Maybe the Dr. can put your MIL on an anti-depressant.
When my MIL threw her purse and started yelling when she was admitted to rehab, I left her to the nurses and deprived her of her audience.
When you mom has to go to the hospital, and she will soon, you may need rehab. Mom will think you are sticking her in a nursing home and throw a hissy fit. That is when you inform the nurses, leave them your cell number and you stay AWAY for 48 hours minimum. Stay only as long as she is nice. Move her from there to Assisted Living. Follow their recommendations for the amount of time to settle her in. Be part of the team.