I am POA for my mom and want to move her where I live in a different state... We left wednesday and had a great trip. She was bery relaxed and enjoyed the 7.5 hr drive... I have noticed that being here has givin her a new look on her face. She interacts with my grandkids and enjoys being in a new environment.. at night and if she is over tired she will get sundowners and aggitated easily.. I am not happy where she lives in an apartment- she is depressed and wont do much without a lot off effort.. we have had some issues with my siblings n care that wasnt givin like it should have. I have had APS called on me out of spite and false accusations even though a sibling did not care for mom n hwr finances or hygeine.... We are here and wonder if it would be easier and less stressful to just stay, find a new place for us and have her stuff sent down... I know I am giving her better care than. Ever and have been told by several how wonderful mom looks and how happy she seems.. I just wanna bring her home with me where she will be surrounded by grown kids n little kids horses n dogs and be able to sit outside n enjoy the fresh country air.... pls any advice will be great !!!!!
If it's true that where she's living at the moment, in her own apartment, she is lonely, neglected and struggling, then it could be that moving to be near you could be beneficial. But don't rush into it: get advice, think through all the details, be sure you can realistically manage the tough times there are bound to be when you're caring for an elderly person.
And don't forget there are other options too, such as her living nearby but not in your home.
Best of luck, and meanwhile I'm glad your mother is having a great time being with your family for her visit. I like the image of her sitting outside in the fresh air and sunshine!
Moral: if you ARE going to go ahead, make sure you have planned every detail and take it one careful step at a time.
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