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A lot will depend on your financial resources because outside care is expensive -- but this is what people have been saving up for their entire lives.
If he's weak now, then he is a fall risk. Him becomiing unable to move himself will probably mean LTC in either your home or a facility.
Is your home made for wheelchair access? Are the doorways wide and counters low? Is there space in his room for a Hoyer lift? Do you mind people being in your home most of the time?
If not, then you may need to consider a good, local facility. You should talk to a Medicaid Planner for your state, and he needs to have all his legal paperwork in order (a designated DPoA who is not you, but someone younger; a Living Will aka Advance Healthcare Directive, a Last Will, etc.).
You should talk to a certified elder law attorney if you haven't already. Other resources are your local area's Agency on Aging, or social services for your county. If you call the county they can come in and assess him for in-home services. But eventually, you will both need to decide what happens when his care needs become too much for in-home or finances.
First - ask for PT to try and regain or at least maintain the ability he has - I was surprised at how much stronger my mom got with only a few very simple exercises. But if he continues to lose his ability to walk at your age I think a nursing home is likely the realistic option. Once someone can no longer walk or even stand and transfer to a wheelchair then everything becomes exponentially harder, a facility has many hands to deal with toileting or changing his incontinence briefs, dressing, bathing, the ability to get out of bed and be with other people or just see something other than the same four walls (not to mention a respite for you).
I would talk to his doctor and have the doctor order PT. that might help. You may have to consider hiring another caregiver to help you out. If your husband is on Hospice they will provide equipment that will make it easier for you to help him move, or equipment that will allow you to move him. They will instruct you how to use it as well. If he can not walk a wheelchair would be the next step.
Wondering if either of you is a veteran? If so, contact your local Veteran Services office and speak to a counselor to apply for the Aid & Attendance benefit which will cover assisted living or home health care. there’s also an adaptive program for handrails etc
I'm agreeing with others regarding PT. Muscles atrophy very quickly when they are not used making you weak and unable to do seemingly simple things. All of us could benefit from more exercise. To keep yourself strong, you could both start some type of an exercise program. Could be some PT or some videos of exercises for seniors, etc.
I think having PT come to the house would be the best plan. So much easier than going out which can be daunting or unsafe, especially is he's having trouble walking. Call his doctor and ask for a referral ASAP.
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I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
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You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
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Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
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If he's weak now, then he is a fall risk. Him becomiing unable to move himself will probably mean LTC in either your home or a facility.
Is your home made for wheelchair access? Are the doorways wide and counters low? Is there space in his room for a Hoyer lift? Do you mind people being in your home most of the time?
If not, then you may need to consider a good, local facility. You should talk to a Medicaid Planner for your state, and he needs to have all his legal paperwork in order (a designated DPoA who is not you, but someone younger; a Living Will aka Advance Healthcare Directive, a Last Will, etc.).
You should talk to a certified elder law attorney if you haven't already. Other resources are your local area's Agency on Aging, or social services for your county. If you call the county they can come in and assess him for in-home services. But eventually, you will both need to decide what happens when his care needs become too much for in-home or finances.
But if he continues to lose his ability to walk at your age I think a nursing home is likely the realistic option. Once someone can no longer walk or even stand and transfer to a wheelchair then everything becomes exponentially harder, a facility has many hands to deal with toileting or changing his incontinence briefs, dressing, bathing, the ability to get out of bed and be with other people or just see something other than the same four walls (not to mention a respite for you).
You may have to consider hiring another caregiver to help you out.
If your husband is on Hospice they will provide equipment that will make it easier for you to help him move, or equipment that will allow you to move him.
They will instruct you how to use it as well.
If he can not walk a wheelchair would be the next step.
I think having PT come to the house would be the best plan. So much easier than going out which can be daunting or unsafe, especially is he's having trouble walking. Call his doctor and ask for a referral ASAP.
Best of luck.