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My last immediate family member. I am bereft by her loss and live an an empty, dark house. It will take months, if not years, to adjust to the "aloneness". However, I am humbled by the love and support given by my extended family members of cousins and friends. I could not have asked for a more loving exit for my mother -- at home in her bed with my cousin and I offering a prayer during her transition. Thank you all for educating me and supporting me during the long, long time in caring for my parents. Looking back now, I'm glad I did it; this doesn't diminish the long days and nights of caregiving. It is horrific because you never know what emergency, illness, care issue (for example, being told the hospital bed would be picked up bc the patient was now under the care of a different organization) is to be faced that day. Thank you all again. I will likely pop in from time-to-time. May your 2025 be healthy and may you find some happiness despite the pain of caregiving. Much love to you all.

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Dear Tynagh, I hope you are doing better since the passing of your beautiful Mom. Please know that the part that made your Mom who she was on this earth, her beautiful soul, will live on forever. I hope you feel her spirit with you each day of your life.
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Tynagh 11 hours ago
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Condolences on the loss of your sweet mom. I wish you peace and better days ahead, and that your friends and the simple pleasures in life see you through these times.

Also a huge hug.
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Tynagh Jan 8, 2025
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I’m terribly sorry for your profound loss.

Now you need to shift your caregiving to yourself.

What did you do to get your mom out of the house for her health and well being? Do those things for yourself. Prioritize you.

Get a gym membership and hire a personal trainer… so you have a place you have to go. you will end up feeling better, exhilarated.

don’t watch tv unless you do so from a treadmill.

Make a list of your favorite outings. Put them on small pieces of paper and draw them out and do them when you are having a bad day.

Rely on friends.

Remember thst having family doesn’t really look like those Rockwell paintings.

My family was all about $ and things when mom died. They didn’t care or hurt like I did and when I saw how they behaved, I lost some faith in humanity. don’t wish for siblings. They do not always translate as you wish they would.

Know you will feel better in time.
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((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((HUGS)))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))
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My sincere condolences. I'm glad she had a peaceful passing.
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Tynagh Jan 8, 2025
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Very sorry to hear of the loss of your mom. Wishing you sweet memories.
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So sorry. You were a strong support to your Mom.
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Tynagh Jan 8, 2025
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So sorry for your loss. (((Hugs))).
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So sorry to hear of your loss - yes being the last one is tough. So many questions not asked. I was reading what you wrote while looking through some of my mother's left over knitting - trying to figure out what pattern she was using. There will be a day to figure it out, but please do look into Grief Share, or something similar. I can imagine your mother saying Job well done, my beautiful faithful daughter. Peace!
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So sorry for your loss.

I'm glad for your sake that you have extended family and friends to help you.

I hope that your aloneness doesn't last long.

I'm sending prayers your way.
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Sorry for your loss. Your mom was fortunate to have you in her corner. Over the next months/years, it will be time to shed the "caregiver" role and see what's next for you.
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Tynagh Jan 8, 2025
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My condolences for your loss
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((((((Hugs))))) Deepest condolences on your loss. It must bring you comfort that she had such a good passing and that you have the support of family and friends. Please do bring some light and interest into your dark empty house. It is not good for you to feel so alone there. That being said, a major loss is always hard and leaves a void that takes time to adjust to. Be kind to yourself. Wishing you some light and life in 2025. Hope to see you continue here.
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Tynagh Jan 8, 2025
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Oh Ty, I am saddened to read this. But happy you got to be with mom during her peaceful transition.

Wishing you peace in your heart and courage to face the upcoming days of grief with the knowledge you were a great daughter to your parents. Look for signs that mom is safe and happy on the Other Side and protecting YOU now.
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Tynagh Jan 8, 2025
Thank you, Lea! I was thinking about you. Hope that the wedding was wonderful!
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So sorry for your loss Tynagh, even though we expect it it's never easy.
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Tynagh Jan 6, 2025
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Condolences out to you. Thank goodness for this gentle exit; it will help you eventually deal with all your grief, Tynagh. I am so sorry for your loss. Please take care of yourself.
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Tynagh Jan 6, 2025
Thank you, Alva. Your advice throughout this time has been appreciated and taken to heart.
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Sorry for your Loss Tynagh . Happy New year - Happy your Moms transition was peaceful .
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Tynagh Jan 6, 2025
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Ty, I'm So sorry, for your loss. 🫂🫂 It's will take time to fill the void in your life. Be kind to yourself
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I'm very sorry for your loss. Keep your memories of her close to your heart. It is not an easy path back into your life after caregiving, but she is still with you, guiding you, trusting you, and loving you. Please don't stay alone too much, even if you don't participate in conversation it's good to be around others. And it's perfectly fine to talk about her and tell her story.
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🫂🫂🫂. So very sorry for the loss of your dear mom. She was so very fortunate to have you and yes it take times as you moves through the waves of grief..
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Tynagh Jan 6, 2025
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May she RIP, so sorry for your loss.
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What a gift that you not only had a "beautiful" mom but that you also got to be at her side as she transitioned from this world to the next.
I hope that you will seek out some grief counseling because this much I know, your mom would not want you lingering in your grief over her death, but would want you moving forward now in a healthy way and living and enjoying your life.
Greif Share is a free support group that meets all over the US, so please Google to see where one is near you.
And please add some much needed light to your "dark house" as nothing is more depressing than darkness.
I wish you well as you journey on now without your immediate family members.
And make them all proud by living your best life!
God bless you.
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Tynagh Jan 6, 2025
Thank you for your advice. I will surely look up Grief Share. :)
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So sorry for your loss.
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I'm so glad she had you by her side right up to the end. What a blessing you've been to her. May you receive comfort from your loving memories of her and peace in your heart as you move through your grief.
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Tynagh Jan 6, 2025
Thank you so much for your kind words.
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I’m very sorry for your loss. A beloved mother is a treasure and I’m so glad you’ve had one all these years. You will still feel her love in your life going forward as I do mine. Do pop in as you’re able, you’ve acquired hard earned wisdom that’s now valuable to others. I wish you the comfort of good memories and peace in the days ahead
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Tynagh Jan 6, 2025
Thank you so much!
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