He is currently in a nursing home receiving rehab for a broken hip. For the last few years I have been trying to see to him because I am his only child. He is an alcoholic and abusive. Even before his current accident, he couldn't, or wouldn't care for himself. Bathe, eat, clean home, etc. I do not want him to leave where he is now, for I am unable to care for him properly, nor do I care to. He, however, refuses to pay for nursing home. Can I refuse to pick him up and return him to his home, knowing he won't have or hire proper care? What would likely happen, from the nursing home standpoint, should I do this?
You are not responsible unless you get involved.
My dad told the ombudsman that he had a place to go, caregivers in place and a move date. Really!?! I was his plan and he figured he could force my compliance with his plans being told to all that would listen. I just about had a fit, no I am not a plan!!!!! It took a lot of time to convince everyone that I was not taking him in.
Start telling the facility that it is an UNSAFE DISCHARGE and put it in writing to ensure that you have proof in case the facility gets him a cab. If they do that, call APS, do not go over and help, call and get him help, if you show up they will stick it to you and say he has care, so please do not show up, call APS and get him in the system that can force him to accept some help and most likely facility placement.