Our mother in law is my husband’s step mother. She has 2 kids from her previous husband. We all live in Florida and our parents said that they have an existing pre-nuptial agreement but we can’t find any document. Her 2 kids seem to be very eager to get everything that they could take especially now that their mother is sick with Alzheimer’s and they now took control over her finances. Thank you.
If they decided, that sounds like not living as husband and wife and not getting a divorce.
If they are trying to take property then I really recommend spending the money to see the attorney to ensure that your FIL is protected. As annoying as it is for him to have to spend a few hundred dollars isn't that better than many thousands trying to fight their actions? Besides, once the items or money are gone it is harder to recover them, better to stop it before it gets taken.
Have you seen these documents?
Ask to see them or go to the courts, this would be public records.
If it is legal then they do need access to her financial information, they have to report to the court.
If it is just some paper, I don't know how legal it is, however, she still needs to be cared for and your FIL set up an account with her name on it, leads me to think that he fully intended to pay for her care. He is her husband and that is what real men do, they take care of their wives.
Who declared her incompetent? That is not something that just anyone can do.
Who is paying for MILs expenses? As long as they are both living both of their care should be coming out of the account that is in both of their names. It seems to me that it was probably set up for that purpose and that is why all 3 names are on it. I am thinking that your FIL trusted his son to take care of the woman he loved enough to make his wife.
As of right now, no one is entitled to anything out of the estate except your FIL and MIL.
I wish people would put their wishes in writing and update them when they have life changing events, like s marriage. It would make things soooooooo much easier for those that have to help.
Any meeting with an attorney to get things sorted out would be paid from your FILs money. But I think that the step siblings are trying to get information for the courts, it is part of their fudiciary responsibility if in fact she has been declared legally incompetent.
In TN, a husband's estate must provide for a widow regardless of any will. For example, a will may state that everything goes to the eldest son but state law requires an amount equal to one year of living expenses must be provided for the widow, even if the marriage occurred only hours before death. Widows from marriages of over 10 years are also entitled to a portion of the estate derived from the length of marriage. Trusts can be used to diminish the amount of the "estate"; however in TN the assets named in a pour over will are subject to the widow's portion.
If MIL is not named as a beneficiary in the trust and her children are not named then they have no rights to assets. No, no one that is not specifically named as a beneficiary is entitled to any of the trust assets. Trusts are created to keep things private, unless you are a named beneficiary you aren't even entitled to see the documents.
What does the trust say about her finances? Could they be dealing with accounts that were intentionally created as her inheritance, ie a savings account in both names that is not part of the trust.
Is the step family involved with her since her husband died?
If they are taking items that belong to the trust they can be prosecuted. The greed of people is just sickening.
FIL has the right to provide for anyone he wants, and to exclude those he does not want to inherit. It's not the kids' choice whether they get an inheritance or not.