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I am just surprised that she is that cognizant and not something I expected. I avoid concrete information like - it's been 3 years, or Dad died 7 years ago and of course, that is more distressing.
I asked my Husband if he was concerned about his memory and he said he was. I scheduled a memory test for him. The test indicated there was reason for concern and I scheduled an appointment with his primary who then referred us to a neurologist that confirmed dementia. So he was aware of memory concerns. He did refuse to discuss it after the diagnosis. The best course of action would be to get a diagnosis confirmed. Or it could also indicate other problems “lost time or gaps” can mean other things not “just” dementia. It is also helpful, if possible, to get the type of dementia diagnosed.
Here is an example of someone I knew who was aware she had dementia and Alzheimers both. She was SO SWEET about it. She had a little Christmas tree on top of her chest of drawers which had pictures of her family members, and on the back of each picture was their name and relationship. Whenever I saw her, she said, "Oh, I am SO SORRY; I don't know you, but I think if I USED to know you, I LIKED you because you are so nice". So I told her, "Don't worry, every time I see you, I will repeat the story of how we met." and I did. I never got tired of repeating that story, because she was so full of love. For me, I am beginning to forget things. I am 74 and my mom had Dementia and Alzheimers before she died, so I know it may be genetic. I am PREPARING for this by writing notes to myself and taping them to my desktop. I put my name, social security number, emergency numbers, my own address and phone #, medical record number for my health plan, doctor and dentist phone numbers, Instacart delivery phone numbers, etc. I hope by preparing, it won't be so hard on my grown kids. As it is, I am now asking them how old they are because I can't remember and asking when are their birthdays. I really need to start a calendar for these things. That will be my next task. I think they are getting annoyed of my forgetting. They think I don't love them, and if I loved them, I would remember. So, they sometimes act annoyed at me when I ask them those things.
You can help your kids even more by seeing an attorney, an Eldercare attorney is best but... Get all your papers done. Who will be POA for health and financial matters. Do you have a POLST or other document detailing what you want done medically? Get that done so they do not have to make decisions no one wants to make. Get your will done. Start getting rid of the "stuff" in your house that no one wants. The cookie jar collection, Great Aunt Sophie's dresser, the Formal Dining room furniture, If you can afford it consider moving into Independent Living that has on the same campus Assisted Living and Memory Care. This way you will not be depending on your kids to "do for you". Or be willing to hire people to do things you can't do and hire caregivers when the time comes. Pre plan your funeral and pay for it so that they will not be railroaded into doing things you would not want them to do or buy, Take care of your health. If you are concerned about memory problems see a neurologist or a neuropsychologist. And when that is all done if there is a trip that you have wanted to take...Take it, do the things you have wanted to do but put off. Enjoy things while you can and that is with or without a diagnosis of dementia.
My father with vascular dementia and my mother with MCI were both aware they had some problems, particularly in the beginning. Dementia affected them very differently with Dad maintaining he was still very sharp (even after a TIA had badly affected his balance and an MRI showed 7 dead areas in his brain from previous TIAs) and didn't need any help while my mother accepted help gratefully.
My hubby knows there is something wrong, but does not know it is dementia. His PCP and I decided not to tell him due to his personality. If he knew he has an incurable disease, he would give up living. So, when he gets upset about not remembering things, we blame it on the time he fell and had surgery for subdural hematoma. He knows that when the doctor cut into his brain some of the brain was damaged and died. That gives him a modicum of comfort.
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
VI. No Waiver of Your Rights.
APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
I agree that:
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I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information").
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APFM may provide information to me electronically. My electronic signature on agreements and documents has the same effect as if I signed them in ink.
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APFM may send all communications to me electronically via e-mail or by access to an APFM web site.
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If I want a paper copy, I can print a copy of the Disclosures or download the Disclosures for my records.
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This E-Sign Acknowledgement and Authorization applies to these Disclosures and all future Disclosures related to APFM's services, unless I revoke my authorization. You may revoke this authorization in writing at any time (except where we have already disclosed information before receiving your revocation.) This authorization will expire after one year.
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You consent to APFM's reaching out to you using a phone system than can auto-dial numbers (we miss rotary phones, too!), but this consent is not required to use our service.
The best course of action would be to get a diagnosis confirmed. Or it could also indicate other problems “lost time or gaps” can mean other things not “just” dementia. It is also helpful, if possible, to get the type of dementia diagnosed.
Get all your papers done.
Who will be POA for health and financial matters.
Do you have a POLST or other document detailing what you want done medically? Get that done so they do not have to make decisions no one wants to make.
Get your will done.
Start getting rid of the "stuff" in your house that no one wants. The cookie jar collection, Great Aunt Sophie's dresser, the Formal Dining room furniture,
If you can afford it consider moving into Independent Living that has on the same campus Assisted Living and Memory Care. This way you will not be depending on your kids to "do for you". Or be willing to hire people to do things you can't do and hire caregivers when the time comes.
Pre plan your funeral and pay for it so that they will not be railroaded into doing things you would not want them to do or buy,
Take care of your health. If you are concerned about memory problems see a neurologist or a neuropsychologist.
And when that is all done if there is a trip that you have wanted to take...Take it, do the things you have wanted to do but put off. Enjoy things while you can and that is with or without a diagnosis of dementia.