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We were infomed about 2 weeks ago that she had lost 10 lbs in 2 months, her appetite was barely there and she was becoming weaker. They suggested hospice. Her 2 sons ate Christmas dinner with her at a special facility event this Tuesday, she started hospice on Wednesday, and we were called out of church this morning that her heart rate was 30 and her breathing was labored. My son in Chicago happened to come into town yesterday, so he was there, as was my local son, and his son (my grandson). We looped in my other brother-in-law in Tucson with FaceTime. When we got there her eyes were half open but not really tracking, her breathing was abnormal, and she wasn't really responsive but we felt she could hear us, as at one point a tear rolled from her eye while her sons were crying and talking to her. We feel she was waiting for all 3 sons to be "present" then she very gently and quietly passed. She wasn't on meds for pain. She didn't seem to be in pain, thankfully. The staff was wonderful: they brought food for us, consoled us, told us stories about her, they came in and out saying their farewells to her since she'd been there for 7 years total, the Chaplain came in several times and waited with us for the Cremation Society to come get her. They sent only 1 small young woman so I helped move her onto the gurney. She was a very nice MIL, a loving Mom and sweet woman who had never harmed a fly. She technically wasn't diagnosed with anything so not sure what took her. Just so so grateful she had as good an exit as it gets. Last time I saw her was on Thanksgiving, eating and laughing together so it feels surreal to me that she's gone. Jesus was her Lord and Savior, so although surprised and sad, we are celebrating her liberation from her worn-out, sick, earthly body and she now in the presence of her loving God. "In the resurrection scheme of things, this has to happen: everything perishable taken off the shelves and replaced by the imperishable, this mortal replaced by the immortal. Then the saying will come true: Death swallowed by triumphant Life! Who got the last word, oh, Death? Oh, Death, who’s afraid of you now?" 1 Corinthians 15:54-55 (The Message version)
So sorry to see this. We know it is coming but still so unexpected. I’m glad her sons were able to have a holiday meal with her and that you saw her Thanksgiving. such lovely support.
What a visual you painted. The Chaplain and the men all gathered and you and the one small woman moving your MIL’s body onto the gurney.
Wishing you and your family peace and happy memories.
(((Geaton)))) I am thankful, for your family's sake, that your MIL passed away relatively easily, surrounded by her children. I'm glad for all of you that she had family and celebration time just back at Thanksgiving, where she could enjoy herself and her family could enjoy her company. Condolences, Geaton. 🙏
Geaton - so sorry to hear this, and condolences to you and the family. She is in God's hands now. So sorry to the family for the loss, it is difficult. Hope you all get through with strength. Thanks for all your helpful comments to us on the Forum.
So sorry for your loss . She was lucky to have her family looking after her and visiting her , and for a peaceful end of life . May the good memories help give you all peace .
Oh my goodness! I'm so sorry for your unexpected loss, but so happy MILs exit was quick, painless and peaceful. That's a relief. My mother's passing was unexpected too, even though she was 95. She was fine one day, then went into her bed and passed a week later, never waking up again.
Sending you hugs, love and prayers for strength as you grieve this loss.
So very sorry for your family's loss. Thank you for sharing this and glad it was as peaceful a passing as possible filled with love and family present.
Geaton, thank you for this post and thank you for caring enough about us on the forum to share your wisdom and compassion. I’m happy your MIL’s journey home was peaceful and that her family was with her at the end. I’m sure she was thankful she had you in her life and I’m thankful you are in mine. May God bless you for what you brought to her in this world and how you helped ease her into the next.
I’m sorry to hear your news and wish your family much comfort and peace. Also very grateful MIL had such a good family in her corner looking out for her, and then an uncomplicated, peaceful passing. It’s nice to think of our loved ones healed and whole in Christ. Hugs…
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
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APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
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I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information").
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So sorry to see this. We know it is coming but still so unexpected. I’m glad her sons were able to have a holiday meal with her and that you saw her Thanksgiving. such lovely support.
What a visual you painted. The Chaplain and the men all gathered and you and the one small woman moving your MIL’s body onto the gurney.
Wishing you and your family peace and happy memories.
Love your description, it was touching.
Hope you all get through with strength.
Thanks for all your helpful comments to us on the Forum.
Thank you for sharing with us.
Sending you hugs, love and prayers for strength as you grieve this loss.
I’m happy your MIL’s journey home was peaceful and that her family was with her at the end. I’m sure she was thankful she had you in her life and I’m thankful you are in mine.
May God bless you for what you brought to her in this world and how you helped ease her into the next.