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I think your profile says it all. You're angry & burned out from living with your mother 24/7. Why not get her back into Assisted Living and take your life back?? I could never, ever, under any circumstances care for my 93 y/o mother in my home. Just the mobility issues alone, never mind the dementia, would have me on anti-depressants BIG time!!
Karla Find mom a friend. If she has funds maybe a student designer would love to visit and shop for her. Your mom is confined and her surroundings are important to her. 11 months is a long time to have a guest. What were her plans for the future? What are yours? You sound stuck. You need time to get your life back on track. It’s time for more than a fresh design for mom. Do level with the brothers that it’s not working for you. They probably already know that and are waiting on you to take action.
I totally agree with lealonnie. You have reached your limit and approaching the burn out stage. This is not a criticism from me. I have been there. I cared for my mom for 15 years in my home. Trust me, I felt everything that you are feeling. I did burn out.
My brothers who did nothing but criticize me and never helped drove me crazy! I became terribly resentful.
Wouldn’t you know, mom favored my brothers! I gave up and told mom if they felt that I did such a lousy job (doctors complemented me on my caregiving!) then they could take over and I told mom to go live with my brother and sister in law.
Please take your life back. Why did you remove her from assisted living? This is more than you can handle. Please don’t feel guilty. Tell her it is no longer working out and look into placement for her.
I know her room is very important to her and she’s always loved to decorate. It’s something we both have in common. But she changes things every 2-3 days because it’s all she’s got. She’s not able to do anything else. And she forgets. She puts things away and then changes stuff and then can’t find anything. The funny thing about the room, she’s not in there unless she’s changing the decorating. She doesn’t like to be in there because she’s by herself. My mom broke her left femur and she can’t live by herself. I didn’t want her in a nursing home. After a year, already, I’m so mentally frazzled. She’s always got a great attitude and she tells me thank you all the time. But, since we even moved into a 55+ she’s more isolated. She’s had a stroke years ago, the old hip fracture that causes enough pain for her that she can’t sit up too long. Going to church or anywhere takes its toll on both of us. Her dementia is getting really bad, she’s becoming more and more incontinent because she can’t make it to the bathroom. I love my mom. Boy, I hate how I feel on the inside. It’s awful.
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
VI. No Waiver of Your Rights.
APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
I agree that:
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I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information").
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APFM may provide information to me electronically. My electronic signature on agreements and documents has the same effect as if I signed them in ink.
C.
APFM may send all communications to me electronically via e-mail or by access to an APFM web site.
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If I want a paper copy, I can print a copy of the Disclosures or download the Disclosures for my records.
E.
This E-Sign Acknowledgement and Authorization applies to these Disclosures and all future Disclosures related to APFM's services, unless I revoke my authorization. You may revoke this authorization in writing at any time (except where we have already disclosed information before receiving your revocation.) This authorization will expire after one year.
F.
You consent to APFM's reaching out to you using a phone system than can auto-dial numbers (we miss rotary phones, too!), but this consent is not required to use our service.
Best of luck!
Find mom a friend. If she has funds maybe a student designer would love to visit and shop for her.
Your mom is confined and her surroundings are important to her. 11 months is a long time to have a guest. What were her plans for the future? What are yours?
You sound stuck. You need time to get your life back on track.
It’s time for more than a fresh design for mom. Do level with the brothers that it’s not working for you. They probably already know that and are waiting on you to take action.
My brothers who did nothing but criticize me and never helped drove me crazy! I became terribly resentful.
Wouldn’t you know, mom favored my brothers! I gave up and told mom if they felt that I did such a lousy job (doctors complemented me on my caregiving!) then they could take over and I told mom to go live with my brother and sister in law.
Please take your life back. Why did you remove her from assisted living? This is more than you can handle. Please don’t feel guilty. Tell her it is no longer working out and look into placement for her.
The funny thing about the room, she’s not in there unless she’s changing the decorating. She doesn’t like to be in there because she’s by herself.
My mom broke her left femur and she can’t live by herself. I didn’t want her in a nursing home. After a year, already, I’m so mentally frazzled. She’s always got a great attitude and she tells me thank you all the time. But, since we even moved into a 55+ she’s more isolated. She’s had a stroke years ago, the old hip fracture that causes enough pain for her that she can’t sit up too long. Going to church or anywhere takes its toll on both of us.
Her dementia is getting really bad, she’s becoming more and more incontinent because she can’t make it to the bathroom.
I love my mom. Boy, I hate how I feel on the inside. It’s awful.