I have tried saying that I would look into it. I Even put a camera up in her apartment, it’s just pointing at the door and sees anyone coming in. She says they are getting past my camera. “They” steal really silly things, half a can of gingerale, urinary napkins, toilet paper the worst is her keys I have a beeper on them now and every time they are “stolen” she has hidden them. I’ve asked who she thinks it is and she has no idea. I need ideas of what to say when she is accusing this mystery person for stealing. She is now saying she can’t stay there much longer because of this.
Either way, there is likely no reasoning with your mom on this or convincing her it isn’t happening, the more you fight it the more she will likely dig in so try going with it and just changing the perspective, if you will. Good luck!
Her actions are happening because her brain is losing the ability to make sense of what is happening around her. Your logical interpretations of what she is doing do not fit with what her brain is telling her from moment to moment.
Can you respond to her with a neutral comment to make her comfortable, rather than toward the act she talks about? Saying you’ll look into it is fine. Then change the subject to something else, perhaps family chit-chat or the weather or sports?
Anything that might draw her in.
Saying she can’t stay there much longer is very typical behavior for someone newly placed in residential care. Your response again needs to be open ended.
I organize her things and she undoes it. I have removed all valuable and important things from her room.