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Yikes. Did she get hurt? Anyone else? Was it her fault?
If you had any reservations about her being able to drive anymore, then it's definitely time to pull the plug on this. 87 is pretty darn old to be driving. I don't expect my 78 yo mom to be behind the wheel tooo much longer. I almost stopped it once but her rough day was actually due to her key needing to have some WD40 sprayed on it so it would actually go in all the way!
If you are >60% sure that she is not safe behind the wheel, then there are a number of ways to handle it. At her age, I imagine that she might have at least a touch of dementia going on. Purchasing and insuring a car is rather complicated and she probably can not easily navigate this on her own. So keep pushing it down the road and maybe she'll forget?? If she wants to drive your car, tell her your insurance will not allow it.
Are there alternatives? It's usually the loss of independence that is the issue more than the actual act of driving. Are you in a city with a bus? Uber? A local person you can trust to hire to drive her to things?
Early bird is right. Doctors can revoke driver’s licenses. My friend lost hers temporarily after blacking out while at work and getting a very bad concussion.
Can you give us details on this accident? Unless it was NOT your mom's fault, then you really don't need to have her "understand". Just do what you have to do to keep her off the road.
Lovejean, oh dear. How old was her vehicle? If it was an older model, your Mom may not like the new high tech vehicles that are offered now a days. That's one reason I am keeping my 1996 vehicle, way too many thing-a-ma-jigs, whatchamacallits, and doodads in the newer vehicles.
If I had been in a wreck, I would have been shaken up for a very long time. How is your Mom doing?
If Mom is headstrong about wanting to drive, may need to bring out the "therapeutic fibs", like telling her she cannot get new car insurance if she is 85 and over and had a wreck where the vehicle was totaled.... and your car insurance won't cover any driver 85 and older who had wreck a vehicle. I know, these are fibs, but sometimes they do work.... or not. Worth a try. Hope Mom doesn't have her car insurance carrier on speed-dial.
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
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APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
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If you had any reservations about her being able to drive anymore, then it's definitely time to pull the plug on this. 87 is pretty darn old to be driving. I don't expect my 78 yo mom to be behind the wheel tooo much longer. I almost stopped it once but her rough day was actually due to her key needing to have some WD40 sprayed on it so it would actually go in all the way!
If you are >60% sure that she is not safe behind the wheel, then there are a number of ways to handle it. At her age, I imagine that she might have at least a touch of dementia going on. Purchasing and insuring a car is rather complicated and she probably can not easily navigate this on her own. So keep pushing it down the road and maybe she'll forget?? If she wants to drive your car, tell her your insurance will not allow it.
Are there alternatives? It's usually the loss of independence that is the issue more than the actual act of driving. Are you in a city with a bus? Uber? A local person you can trust to hire to drive her to things?
Good luck.
For now, take her keys and hide your own.
If I had been in a wreck, I would have been shaken up for a very long time. How is your Mom doing?
If Mom is headstrong about wanting to drive, may need to bring out the "therapeutic fibs", like telling her she cannot get new car insurance if she is 85 and over and had a wreck where the vehicle was totaled.... and your car insurance won't cover any driver 85 and older who had wreck a vehicle. I know, these are fibs, but sometimes they do work.... or not. Worth a try. Hope Mom doesn't have her car insurance carrier on speed-dial.