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Her . In October shea fell in the bathroom and was in floor for 4 days.in Nov I went to stay with her to take care of her. She lived in filth and she was starving. In 8 years she hadn't seen a Dr. And since she couldn't walk 6 yrs she hadn't left the house when I told my sister to find someone to come care for her she igorned me. Then she ai like in Florida and when she found out I was there to take care of my mom she flew home and kicked me out.now that she died she ti over and has started the probate and she has vanished me from the pictures what can I do

This is hard to understand, but if you are correct that Sis “has started the probate” it must mean that M made a valid will, S is the executor, and there is enough in the estate to make it necessary to apply for probate. For example, if all assets are jointly owned, there is no need for probate. Do you think M would have agreed to do that, and that there is an estate that would require probate?

If it’s correct, then S is ‘in charge’ of what happens now. The details will differ from state to state, but it is normal for the final results of the process to be filed so that you can see them at the end. It may be frustrating not to know what is going on immediately, but if you want to get involved straight away it will probably be necessary to do it through a lawyer. You might have found it easier to get involved while M was still alive, and I'm sure you will be asked why you didn't.
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I'm sorry for your loss. It has been messy and might continue to be until you sort things out in the coming days.

How was your sister legally able to kick you out of your Mom's home? Was she your Mom's PoA or legal guardian? Going there to be her caregiver and then being kicked out... this part of your story is murky and has no context unless you provide more information. In the end, this is in the past and now you need to move forward.

Was your Mom's residence in FL? You may have to research what the probate process is in that state. I think you have a set amount of time to contest the Will and you may still be in that window but you may need an elder law attorney for for guidance.

It's possible that your sister, if she is the Executor of your Mom's Will, hasn't cut you out but is simply waiting for the probate to be finished, which is how that process works. In my home state (MN) any assets over $75K needs to go through probate, and most houses usually are past this value. Or, if your Mom left a more complicated estate, it takes time to sort it out. Your Mom being cremated may have been her own wish, or it may have been a financial decision made by your sister. There must be a reason why you weren't notified. What would your sister say is the reason for that? We need to know both sides of this story.
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Maybe Mom was cremated because she had no money to bury her. Sounds like sister was Moms POA. Its funny that she kicked you out of Moms home when u were caring for her. Also sounds like you and sister are estranged.

If Sister has filed for Probate then a copy of the Will is on file and you can request a copy. As Executor, though, if you are a beneficiary or interested party, she has to contact you by letter that the estate is now in Probate and enclose a copy of the Will or provide it upon request. Your sister has no power to change a Will, neither as a POA or Executor. Her job now is to clear up any debts Mom may have have using the estate money. The home needs to be sold and any liens paid off. Then an accounting is done. That accting will be sent to the beneficiaries. You can contest at that time if you do not agree with the accting. This process can take a while. My Mom's house did not sell for 2 years.
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