My 99-year-old mom has advanced dementia, where she hits and bites, etc. I can't find a place for her to go unless we pay cash, $4-10,000. per month. Nope! She only has Medicare and I only have social security and so does my husband. She sold her homes and bought a new car and traveled so she has no money. We are paying one person $25.00 per hr to come to bathe her and change her bedding 3 days a week, and another is paid 3 days a week by Medicare; she is on hospice.
She is losing control of her bowels and of course, has no bladder control. Dr. believes she has had a 'vascular event',(stroke). She can't move, can't walk, and we do the best we can. And I think I am losing my mind too.
I'm sorry you are dealing with such a stressful and sad issue. Wishing you the best of luck moving forward. Sending you a hug and a prayer for peace.
If she should end up in the hospital due to a fall or illness, tell the discharge planners that she can no longer live in your home due to her behaviors, which make it dangerous for you to care for her.