My sister who has mental health problems (on meds but still drinks) is also very narcissistic. I am not making this up, narcissism is not just behavior it is a biological condition and can be inherited. She is gaining greater and greater control of my mother My sister is trying to have me completely disinherited and banished from the family. Both mother and sister repeat the same things as my sister coaches her. My sister tells in court I have physically and verbally abused my mother. Called her a big fat ugly bitch. My mother says I called her names at one time so therefore I am chronic abuser. Yes, I think my mom has dementia her sister has Lewy's Body. But she passes herself off as perfectly normal and sane in public. But seasonal affective disorder, sundowners. I know I took care of her since 2019 with no thank yous or compensation. But I think my sister at 77 has her own cognitive decline. I think the mental illness and combination of psych meds and alcohol has fried her brain cells. NO I don't call them names. And I certainly have not physically abused my mother either. And I know what abuse is as my brother sexually abused me when I was kid and I had a husband beat me up one night. I left. Neither one of them believe that I have been abused. They just deny it. The brother is still alive but very ill, alcoholic, liver transplant and early dementia. I am the only one left with a fully functioning brain. I having the emotional and legal **** beat out of me.
May you gain wisdom and receive peace in your heart as you escape create a new life for yourself.
No amount of money is worth anything you put up with, leave walk away from them all. They are very unwell. When you can find a way to get yourself some therapy also. You need healing and to find your peace
Most abuse victims witness and experience abuse from home and then will subconsciously pick abusive partners later in life. The disrespect starts early from the family of origin.
Forget about any inheritance from this brood of dysfunction. No amount of money and fighting is worth losing your life over.
2. You have, you say, a Narcissist mother, an alcoholic brother, a wife beating ex, and a sister who checks ALL the boxes by being mentally ill, narcissistic, AND a drinker.
You wrote us earlier in the month.
I can only repeat my advice given at that time:
"AlvaDeer
Dec 1, 2024
Very much too complicated.
We are not judge and jury. We are a bunch of caregivers.
We are getting your own side in this issue and are not getting the sides of others who are involved.
I am dreadfully sorry for your pain, but I am afraid you are on your own with your own legal system in your own town and in your own state and with your own family.
Best I can do is to wish you luck, and I do that."
My own advice is unchanged.
I would suggest, however, that you consider starting with individual therapy for yourself and considering a move of about 1,000 miles away from all of these people.