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I took a leave of absence due to the stress of working verses making sure she was ok every time I was at work. She depends on me more now than ever. I took off because emotionally I was so stressed out. Idk what to do or say to my employer. They know I am off due to stress. Would it be wise to tell them I’m caring for my mom?? I have bills myself...I don’t know what to do.

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Not sure how big your employer is (50+ employees?) I'm a small business and I'd struggle to be able to afford to pay you for a leave (with no predetermined end) AND hire a competent replacement to cover your position. I agree with the other commenters that if you give up your job you are shooting yourself in the foot in the long term. Is it a full-time job? Have you been there long? Are you getting benefits? If yes, I'd definitely do whatever it takes to keep it. Is there any possibility that you can work from home in your current position or make a lateral move to a position that has more flexibility? If I (as an employer) give someone a leave of absence, I don't pay this employee but I do have to hire and pay someone temporarily to cover for them, and this is time-consuming and costly. I love when my employees come to me with a dilemma but also have some solutions to suggest that will benefit the both of us. I'm not trying to make your feel worried or guilty but you need to understand how most small employers view issues such as yours. I'd like to help my people and be generous but not at the cost to all my other employees and the health of the business. There's a balance that needs to be found. And you need to find and keep a balance as your mom requires more and more care.

Here is a helpful article from the home page of this forum:
https://www.agingcare.com/articles/how-to-get-paid-for-being-a-caregiver-135476.htm

Hopefully you are your mom's PoA. Please consider a 1-hr consult with an elder law attorney to discuss Medicaid qualification for your mom, since this may be the safety line your will both eventually need if she doesn't have unlimited funds for private-pay care. I wish you much wisdom and peace in your heart as you figure out what will work best.
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You certainly won't be able to pay your bills on anything you could get paid as her caregiver, and 24/7 care of a senior is absolutely grueling. I would get all the facts you can. Call Medicaid directly. You can access their number for your State by using your search engine or you can call 1-800-medicare which will direct you. I sure do suggest you find a way to muster through keeping a job. Most we hear of on the Forum who give up home and job to take on care and move in with parents end up homeless and jobless and truly helpless with no job history. They are so desperate that we often end up directing them to shelters or suggest moving into a rented room in someone's home. I wish you good luck.
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