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Sheri, I just looked at your profile. It says you are planning to move your mom from FL to your home.
Why don't you move her straight to assisted living instead? You say she will have money from the sale of her home, she can use that money for her care in assisted living until it's gone, then Medicaid would come into play.
PLEASE do not move your mother into your home. It will be so much harder to get her out once she is there. Let the professionals deal with both her dementia and alcoholism, while you can be the supportive visiting daughter.
Before you take on this burden I suggest to seek out and obtain any help you can from your local Agency on Aging, state social services and get counseling for yourself to plan for the future. Please be aware that the future may be more difficult on you than you can possibly imagine. I assume you are taking her in because otherwise she would be homeless? How far advanced is her dementia? I would look into ways and begin planning to get her placed in a facility that would be able to take care of her. Depending on how far advanced her dementia is, that may be right away.
I'm going to tell you first what you should not do.
DO NOT let her move in with you. It would better and easier for everyone including her if you found facility placement for her where she's already living. She can't remain living alone as it is now.
If she is an alcoholic and has dementia, AL isn't going to be a workable option for her. She will probably have to go to a nursing home. They will be better equipped to deal with the dementia and alcoholism.
First, before moving Mom you should check out residency requirements concerning Medicaid. Mom may not qualify for Medicaid at this point in LTC. If she will have proceeds from the sale of her house, they need to be used for her care before Medicaid is considered. And the house needs to be sold at Market value if Medicaid will be applied for within 5 years of the sale. (Some states the years may be less)
An Assisted Living may be hard to get into if she is an alcoholic. ALs are not skilled nursing or have the ability to dry her out. But this would be a good way to spend down any assets she has. Make sure the AL excepts Medicaid. In my State Medicaid may pay for AL after 2 yrs at least of paying privately. This all depends on the % of residents already on Medicaid. Moms AL only allowed 14%
Because each State Medicaid is different in some way, I suggest you call your local Medicaid office and run your scenario by them. Then you will be able to make more informed decisions pertaining to Mom.
Dealing with the alcohol problem would be awful for both of you.
I hope you are looking into care for her, she may or may not be allowed some wine, but no place is going to turn a blind eye to a day drinker. Let THEM be the bad guys. You be supportive and loving and she can be mad at someone else.
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
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Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
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Why don't you move her straight to assisted living instead? You say she will have money from the sale of her home, she can use that money for her care in assisted living until it's gone, then Medicaid would come into play.
PLEASE do not move your mother into your home. It will be so much harder to get her out once she is there. Let the professionals deal with both her dementia and alcoholism, while you can be the supportive visiting daughter.
DO NOT let her move in with you. It would better and easier for everyone including her if you found facility placement for her where she's already living. She can't remain living alone as it is now.
If she is an alcoholic and has dementia, AL isn't going to be a workable option for her.
She will probably have to go to a nursing home. They will be better equipped to deal with the dementia and alcoholism.
Or if you both decide she should move to be closer to you in Illinois, why can't a good facility be found nearby?
Have you considered those options?
An Assisted Living may be hard to get into if she is an alcoholic. ALs are not skilled nursing or have the ability to dry her out. But this would be a good way to spend down any assets she has. Make sure the AL excepts Medicaid. In my State Medicaid may pay for AL after 2 yrs at least of paying privately. This all depends on the % of residents already on Medicaid. Moms AL only allowed 14%
Because each State Medicaid is different in some way, I suggest you call your local Medicaid office and run your scenario by them. Then you will be able to make more informed decisions pertaining to Mom.
Dealing with the alcohol problem would be awful for both of you.
I hope you are looking into care for her, she may or may not be allowed some wine, but no place is going to turn a blind eye to a day drinker. Let THEM be the bad guys. You be supportive and loving and she can be mad at someone else.