She doesn't know I'm aware of it. I used to keep track of my mother's accounts for her. My sister thought she blocked access by changing all the online passwords, but I found a way to access recent purchases by phone, and have documented purchases for jewelry, men's clothing, eBay, and my sisters personal groceries.
My mother was supposed to come & live with me, but my sister refused to allow me to move her. She claims she had my mother declared incompetent, but won't provide proof and won't provide the attorney's info.
I called an attorney, who wanted $500 just to speak with me. Based on the consultation fee, I'm looking at thousands in legal fees which I just don't have. Does anyone know how to force her to provide a formal accounting and other methods that I can do myself to put a stop to this ?
Thanks for ANY help.
After a free consultation, I paid the TN attorney a $2500 retainer to file the petition for my father's guardianship and then another $1500 when we went to court because my father and a brother contested the petition. If it had been uncontested, it would have been completed for the $2500. It's possible your sister will decide not to contest the petition after the guardian ad litum finds evidence of her misfeasance. I was reimbursed from my father's funds.
Are you also living in NY state?
BTW: a springing POA that is not filed in the county your mother lives is in a legal gray area. Law enforcement tends to ignore the claim of a un-filed POA. I question whether you sister can legally prevent your mother's move without at least showing you the POA and the doctors' statements (sometimes it takes 2 doctors) declaring your mother incompetent. Without the doctor's statements your mother can do what she wants.