Hi there. My aunt has been refusing care for the last 8 years and now we are in crisis. She is refusing to go to a home, but she can't be alone for even 30 minutes. We don't have savings and don't know what to do. I am 3,000 miles away and her kids are also 500 or more away.
The state is dragging their feet. She went into the hospital at 80 lbs having no idea what was going on and they released her.
We were all shocked.
What do we do, she is in crisis mode.
Or you can wait for a real medical crisis. Which tbh her weight sounds like a legit medical issue.
Who is with with her now? What is happening that she can’t be alone?
DO NOT spend any of your money on her care. Only her money goes to that.
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What's happening that she can't be alone? Is this a serious question? She has end-stage Alzheimer's. She doesn't know what day it is, she doesn't eat, she doesn't bath, she poops and pisses herself, she can't wait, she can't form a sentence---just those things.
No one is with her now. She is left alone.
We have called hospice and nurses and no one is doing anything, it's gross.
Left under her own powers eg in a Taxi on her own? In which caae she is able to do so (even if a poor decision).
Or did a relative or neighbour picked her up? I get how you can be 'set up' & offer just to drive someone home & find yourself left the person on the spot.