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Just took Mom to early dinner. Drive up to our house and she started yelling we did not live there.


Got her into house and she thinks "other people" live here, that the bills are not in her name, and she is "uncomfortable" being here.


This has happened before but it is worse this time. Has anyone else dealt with this and how did you manage?

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Have you considered moving her into AL, a home that has a step up program where she can be moved to MC when the time comes? You are not going to convince her, her mind is not functioning properly and this will not improve, as she is hallucinating.
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How long has she lived in this home? Might it help to take her back out and have her help you find "the right house"? I guess the risk is the home she is thinking about happens to be one she can lead you to that someone else lives in but if you know that isn't a possibility and there isn't another home in the area she lived in you could even help her once back out on the road by reminding her how much the storm has changed the way things look or maybe she hasn't been this route since that development was finished or they re-did the road, give her brain an out for not being able to find her way home. Or maybe she will lead you back to the right house and now recognize it?
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Foleydaughter, has your Mom had an Urinary Tract Infection test done lately? It could be she has such an infection, and in older folks a UTI can cause all types of strange happenings.

If Mom is clear of an UTI, her dementia could be at a stage where "home" is where she had grown up. My Mom wanted to go "home" and it wasn't until she started talking about visiting her parents and her siblings that I understood what she really meant... all of her family had passed years ago. This is when I needed to do what are called "theraputic fibs" so that Mom would feel comfortable.
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Lymie61 Jul 2019
Possible UTI is a great thought! Amazing the brain havoc that can cause.
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My grandmother-in-law was in AL but we’d take her out for lunch or whatever sometimes. We soon found this was detrimental... she’d be so disoriented even just being gone an hour. Asking “is this my room? Did we go out of town?” and things like that. After that we’d still visit but didn’t take her anywhere anymore. She never mentioned wanting to go out anymore. As her mind shrank, so did her surroundings... the smaller her “world” was, the more she was able to stay oriented.
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