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I just saw an obit yesterday (day before St. Patrick's day!) that said "in true form, John opted for an Irish exit and did not wish for funeral services)" 🍀
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The funeral home will ask for anbobit and postbit to their site. As said, if person had a Facebook page, it could be posted there. Where I live, their are no local papers so someone set up a condolence page for our town.

I may send out note cards saying that... My father, John Doe, passed away on March 1st. His obituary can be seen at the Jones Funeral home site, (site addy). Upon his request, services were private.
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We did not have a funeral for my FIL, for a number of reasons.

On HIS Facebook page, as well as the Facebook page of his son and daughter, myself and SIL's DH - we posted basically the following statement and linked his "official" obituary, which ended with a similar statement.

"As many of you know, FIL went to be with the Lord on
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BlueEyedGirl94 Mar 17, 2025
Not sure why that cut off lol.

As many of you know, FIL went to be with the Lord on (date). Because the grandchildren are spread out across the country, we will not be having a public service. We will have a private memorial when we are able to get all of the immediate family here to do so. Your thoughts and prayers are appreciated."
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If family is close and aware he is ill, then I am certain they are AWARE. You would, in updating his condition form a phone tree if there's lots of relatives. A sort of thing where you pick one person you are comfortable with.

As to services? Neither my brother, nor either of my parents wanted services. My partner and I do not wish to have services either.

Simply tell all: "My beloved Dad ___________died on ___________with family at his side; he has requested no services. Hold him in your hearts."

Good luck and my condolences.
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I see obituaries that say, services will be private.
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AlvaDeer Mar 16, 2025
I have as well. Many say "no services". As to me, I didn't even allow his death to be published in OB or anywhere else. It just these days serves as a scammer's entrance. In fact robbers and scammer's watch for people, SS numbers, empty homes, et al to run their scams.
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A family friend who did not want a full funeral had his son plan to quietly handle the burial and then put the obituary in the newspaper afterwards.
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ElizabethAR37 Mar 16, 2025
No need for obituary if decedent didn't want one. I'm a no fuss 'n feathers girl and prefer to make my Final Exit unobtrusively. I've prepaid for my immediate cremation post-death--no service, no obit. Ashes scattered in the ocean or a nice outdoor site that's convenient for the family.
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This is a perfect use for AI / ChatGPT or other app.
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