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If she cannot afford to pay for AL then apply to Medicaid. Retirement rule #1 from an investment standpoint, is to never take any money out of these accounts until one at least reaches retirement age, then the money is there for you and your spouse, not your MIL.
Not understanding if you mean her accounts, or your own. If her account, then that is what they are for, to pay for her care; when they are depleted she would have to go on medicaid. If you mean your own accounts I am shuddering with despair. I hope not. Please come back and give us some details.
OK, so you say its you and hubs accounts that are being used. Why?? Can you give us more info? I agree with Worried in Cali. Is she in any kind of assistance? If not, look into it!
I looked back on your past posts. 3 years ago the other siblings (all live out of the area) wanted to move her to live with one of them. Why didn't that happen?
You also wrote that they contribute financially. Is that still the case? What are expenses? Does you MIL have in-home help? I'm assuming she does not live with you.
I also read that your husband doesn't even make the decisions on her care.
Your MIL needs to live near those who make the decisions for her care.
Are any of the other siblings having their retirement accounts depleted? Are any of the in-law spouses have their retirement accounts depleted?
All of her children and families cover the majority of her care in an upscale assisted living facility but actually needs full care. She qualifies for medicaid and this could have been handled differently. She requires someone to be with her at all times due to her many medical conditions. I think all of the family realizes the $4,550 a month fee for her assisted living can not be kept up for a long period of time but some can not make up their minds because they feel guilty or do not want extended family and friends to think badly of them. The worse part is she does not want to live anywhere besides with one of her childrens' families. Problem is all of her children and spouses are now over seventy years old and physically and probably mentally can not handle her care on a full time basis. Also all live in different states many miles apart. It is difficult for all involved in her care. One of her children has been making most of the decisions for her care and that causes conflict among the other children and their spouses. We are all just trying to cope as best we can.
Medsister, are you paying for in home health Aids or Assisted Living? My hunch is you are doing either one because those don't take Medicaid. Its a tough situation to be in, either use up your money to pay for AL or Home Care or get MIL on Medicaid and place her in a potentially less desirable Nursing Home. I suppose you have to ask yourself if you feel its better to sacrifice your future comfort for your MIL and how you will feel about it 20-30 years down the road. GL!
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
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APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
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Her funds should pay for her care. If she is destitute, then apply for Medicaid.
Her money should pay or she can apply for public assistance.
Who is going to pay for you if you get sick and need care?
If you mean your own accounts I am shuddering with despair. I hope not. Please come back and give us some details.
You also wrote that they contribute financially. Is that still the case? What are expenses? Does you MIL have in-home help? I'm assuming she does not live with you.
I also read that your husband doesn't even make the decisions on her care.
Your MIL needs to live near those who make the decisions for her care.
Are any of the other siblings having their retirement accounts depleted? Are any of the in-law spouses have their retirement accounts depleted?
What is really going on here?