Do you prepare healthy meals and the person you are caring for eats something else?
I prepare a healthy dinner, just about every single day. My mom, who knows I can't stand to waste food, turns around eats something else. She has been hospitalized for an intestinal blockage recently, but continues to eat bread constantly. She eats bread, pasta, waffles, pancakes, biskets, and all sorts of crud. I prepare a healthy dinner every single day, with veggies, and she eats something else. I know my mom likes cabbage. Last night, my husband grilled, and I made cabbage with skinless sausage in it. she ate ramen. Mind you, I don't buy this stuff, my mom does. I call that junk, weekend food. During the week, I prepare, pretty healthy meals for my family. It is so frustrating. I like spicy food, I have to prepare meals blander for her to eat. I do that, and she still doesn't eat. I'm not a chef, but my meals are good, and tasty.
She has had some of her tablets stopped as a result of general good care and I am actually quite proud of that - shame I look like a beached whale really!
When I put together a healthy meal, she says it's not fit to eat. But since I don't want to make two meals, I cook reasonably healthy with some compromising -- sometimes frying or sauteing. The thing that bothers me most is she will load up on the meat and take a little spoonful of the different vegetables.
After cooking for a father that didn't want to eat and would hide his food and a mother who thinks good food isn't fit to eat, I just cook what I know is good and healthy enough. I've learned that we can encourage or nag and it doesn't do any good. I've also learned that as people get older they also get a more narrow selection of foods they want to eat. So I cook what I know I should, then don't worry if it isn't "fit to eat." That just means it isn't fried, dripping with butter, or loaded with salt. :)
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